I have recently broken up with my bloke. I love him to bits but ive really hurt him. How do I say sorry and show him that I mean it?
2007-01-30 02:14:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Explain the situation and then do everything in your power to rectify it. If he loves you, he'll forgive you. Just make sure you do your part. Prove it to him how much you love him.
2007-01-30 02:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by cmartin814 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i assume a bloke is a man? well, I am at the stage where I want to lay it on the line and say how sorry i am and want someone to forgive me. I am so sincere in this and have made some very positive changes. So for both of us, I hope there is enough faith in people that we get that second chance. If she gives me the chance I know exactly how i want to treat her because she deserves it. my fear is that she found someone else...and this has only been a 3-4 month separation. My hope is that because she has not come out and told me as much, that even is she is seeing someone new, the love for me still exists if I just come around. Good luck to you..I hope he gives you a chance. I like the advice I read here. If you are sincere in your apology, a good man/woman should see that. especially that we go through great lengths to win them back. Why would someone do that if they did not care or were not truly sorry. I don't want to look back and say I sat on my a** and did nothing . I gave her her space for a couple of months like people say but in my case I think it was a sign to her that I didn't care and that she was right.
2007-01-30 02:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is restoring his trust in you. He will probably wonder - if you make an apologetic approach "will she do the same thing again - can I trust her not to hurt me?" Overtures with verbal apologies, gifts and sentiments may be enough for an initial approach (don't be surprised if they are not though) but what you need to work out is how can you demonstrate to him that you will not repeat this episode. In the end your faithfulness and loyalty will win the day if he does give you a second chance - but that will doubtless take time.
2007-01-30 02:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by stgoodric 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have broken up with him it is best that you keep your distance for a while and give him enough time to start thinking clearly as he could easily misinterpret any intentions you have of being genuinely sorry for him with an opportunity for reconciliation.
Breaking up is hard there is never an easy way to do it, old wounds will heal themselves eventually, he might not be ready to see you yet and any comforting words you might have for him could worsen his emotional frame of mind.
2007-01-30 04:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Craig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over for a nice home-cooked dinner.
Look him in the eyes and tell him how sorry you are, and that you would like to apologize. Show him that you are sincere but my laying your heart and feelings all out there to be exposed.
If you truly want forgiveness, you have to be willing to put yourself in a position of vulnerability.
He should appreciate that.
Good Luck!
2007-01-30 02:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and say sorry to begin with. Dont delay till you regret, life is short. Just express your feelings from deep within. keep in touch daily and showing his care for me. For instance good morning messages or a call before going to bed saying that i just wanted to hear your voice. Just be yourself, show that you still care and want him back, but dont be "overprotective"! Give him some time and space. Only some warmth will melt him again! Good-luck!
2007-01-30 02:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl_beach 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All the advice you get is ok but you have to do it your own way, in your own words and in your own time. I find it hard to believe that a woman has a hard time saying I'm sorry, it is usually the other way around, but either way what makes it special is that it comes from your heart. It is then up to him to accept it or not. I wish you all the luck.
2007-01-30 04:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it for a while, no matter how much you're sorry it wont sound genuine right now! i dont think theres a real way to say sorry but when both of you have calmed down then try and talk to him, explain why but be prepared he may not listen if you have hurt him enough! i hope you sort things for you both! xx
2007-01-30 02:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by pinkjessie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to him,talk to him face to face,do not call him. Hold his hands and look him into the eyes and tell him how sorry you are, you have to show a very serious face and speak out serious words that can make him understand and he will feel and see the pain in your eyes and i think he will forgive you. good luck, love u neh!
2007-01-30 02:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by peedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, a simple sorry would suffice. But if you hurt him a lot, then you're gonna need to step it up a bit. If you really love him, get on your knees and apologize to him.
2007-01-30 02:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that even though you two aren't a couple anymore that you still love him. Everyone has to learn to deal with breakups at some point. It always hurts, there is just no way around it.
2007-01-30 02:19:46 · answer #11 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋