My friend, she is so pretty.. Yet she has had the same hair style since high school (she is now, 40 yrs) and I would like to express to her in a nice way that the style she is wearing does not compliment her.. She has a round face but at the temples it narrows in.. When she pulls back her hair, it looks so good. Any suggestions? She is wanting it cut, I am sure the same style and I think she is secure with the style.. How can I address this to her? Or should I ?
2007-01-30 02:09:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Great answers~ Thank you so much....
2007-01-30 02:51:57 · update #1
maybe you could find a picture of a hairstyle you'd think she'd look great with, and give it to her and say "have you considered doing something like this with your hair? It'd really bring out your cheekbones (or eyes, or whatever)." This way you can present her with a new idea, and not say anything negative about her current style.
2007-01-30 03:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she does not have a regular hairdresser, maybe you could give her a gift certificate to yours or one that you know is good. I had a similar situation years ago and that's how we handled it. Also, you could emphasize her good features on her face and gently mention how a different hairstyle could emphasize that. Emphasize the need for change once we get in our 40's. Do you know a hairdresser that will tell a client what would look better rather than just do what the client tells them? I had a hairdresser that would tell you that a particular hairstyle would not work, in a gentle manner of course. If she's truly your friend and you two have a good repoire, maybe mention that you are looking to make changes, even if it's not your hair, maybe mention you are looking for new make-up tips or something like that. Share the "changing" experience with her and remind her that hair always grows back, so if she doesn't like it, it won't take long to undo. On a humorous note, we called our friend that wouldn't change her hairstyle "the Donna" because her and "The Donald" seemed to think their styles were the thing!!! Maybe she just needs some encouragement, hairstyle changing is a precarious experience for most women, if she believes she has a "partner in crime" she may be more willing than you think!!
2007-01-30 10:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Katrina M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Surprise her with a new makeover. If you're willing, tell her you will pay for a haircut, make-up, etc if she agrees to leave the style up to you. Than go out for a night on the town so she's able to flaunt her new look. If you make it fun, maybe she won't feel like you're criticizing her or putting her down. Kind of like the show "How Do I Look" on the Style network. Good luck! She will appreciate your effort in the long run. Sometimes people need an added boost to go ahead with a life changing event. And to your friend, changing her hair style if probably life changing. Again, good luck!
2007-01-30 10:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy ♪♫♪ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just compliment her when she wears her hair back and tell her how nice it looks. Maybe next time she's going in for a haircut, give her a few suggestions on what you think she should do. Don't say anything negative about her current haircut and don't express any disappointment if she doesn't follow your advise.
2007-01-30 10:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by leaptad 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you happen to see her with her hair pulled back, tell her how good it looks. But never suggest that there's anything "wrong" with the style she usually has.
2007-01-30 11:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend then make her understand that you are just trying to be kind but sometimes this doesn't work, depends on the person and how they take criticism. Try going to a hairdresser together and see what they suggest for her try calling the stylist before your appointment and let them make the suggestions, that way you are off the hook, maybe you can even offer to pay for it as a gift.
2007-01-30 10:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pull some photos from magazines and say, "Hey...I was thinking about your hair. I know you'd mentioned that you want to get it cut, and I found all of these great styles that you might want to consider for a fun change!"
2007-01-30 10:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by gin_and_tonic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you offer to go get your hair done together? Then suggest something new with the stylist and talk her into it. I know what you mean, I worked with a woman who had the same feathered wing bangs from 1982.
2007-01-30 10:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by shellguana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about if you say :
Your hair always looks nice, I think it will even look more pretty , if you would .........."add your suggestions" OR
Oh .. yesterday I watched a show, the lady looked very much like you except she had a different hair style which was like ..........."add suggestions" , you know you could look very beatiful if you try that
2007-01-30 10:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by shdtt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sit down for a cup of coffee and magazine reading. When you find a hairstyle in a mag that you think might look good on her then tell her. She is your friend and would probably like to hear your thoughts on what might make her look and feel better.
2007-01-30 10:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋