Things just seemed to click. We have already started talking about our future. I really like this guy. But he lives in another country. We have talk about him coming to see me. Which I really want. I just got out of bad relationship...I don't feel like this is just a rebound guy. I can go on and on about how I feel and how he feels toward me. But I just wanted to know...should I ask him to take it a bit slower? I don't want to lose him. PArt of me says go for it and the other half is wondering if this could be real.
2007-01-30 01:58:06 · 13 answers · asked by hopelessly_in_love_79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, we have seen eachother on webcam and talked on the phone together. Also, I'm not sending any money...lmao He also said...things will work themselves out if we want it bad enough. I was with my last guy (which I met online) for 8 years.
2007-01-30 02:23:55 · update #1
I'm sorry to be so blunt......but how do you take anything slower when you haven't even met in person yet.......he lives in another country for goodness sake.....There are alot of people on-line who aren't upfront about their identity.....hopefully this guy you've met isn't one of them....but whatever you do do not send any money to help him with airfare.....if you want to help him pay for his ticket...once he gets to you, you can reimburse his share then....and do not send tickets either.......and I am not some bitter online dater....I am happily married to the man I met online....have been for 5 years.....although we lived a town apart from one another.....I just think you need to be careful.....people use the Internet to lie and take advantage of others.
2007-01-30 02:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is for you guys to take things slow. If its meant to be, than it will....but there is no need to hurry things along.
We have nothing but time on our hands.
Its tough, with that guy being in another country and all. I would take a break from it and do a little self-evaluation, just to ensure that this is truly not a rebound thing from the ended recent relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-01-30 02:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for 4 years with a man I met online, things went fast and with in 5 months he told me he loved me. He is quirky but I love him as well, I went with the flow and now am engaged to be married. Who's to say your not moving at the past you should be! Shoot for the stars, you only live once and love is really hard to find. So risk it.
2007-01-30 02:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Eda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful . Go slower it might not be real on his part and don't send him any money for a plane ticket. That is a big scam after they get the money they are gone. They do it to a lot of girls and make money.
2007-01-30 02:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think if you tell him you want to take a little slower,is going to scare him off.i think if he has alot of respect for you,he will understand.you are just getting over a bad relationship you need time to heal and to be able to think straight,before anything becomes of it.it will be more fair to him as well.and you also don't want to end up in another bad relationship if you jump into it so soon.
if you haven't already i think you need to meet with him on a regular basis to see and know who you are actually dating,you said you met him on the net but didn't say if you had met him.
take things slow for your sake.
all the best.
2007-01-30 02:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the problem. Anybody can get along via the internet.
2ndly the guy is in another country. With out physically spending time with him it is hard to fall in love with that person. You might fall in love with the way they portray themselves but not the real person. Just be cautious
2007-01-30 02:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might want to go through this period more with your mind than your heart. he is after all in another country and at some point of time if it works out, either one of you have to decide to relocate. take it slow. LDRs are quite tough but as to if he is sincere or a fraud, no one can tell but you
2007-01-30 02:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, even i hav been in such a situation... Pls carry on at a good pace, never dig too deep, else u will lose all mystery abt the relationship... Its the mystery and secrecy that keeps it alive babe...
2007-01-30 02:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've never met this guy before. he could just be telling you what you want to hear. and then be some type of crazy person lol. you never know. be careful.
2007-01-30 02:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can really answer this..i dont know you or him but if you two feel the way you say then do what your heart feels is right..not what people you dont know tell you is right..
2007-01-30 02:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋