Ok growing up, most kids and stuff didnt like me, I had a few very few friends, but not really a lot . Growing up, it was even harder. Especially with girls. Ok now suddendly I turn 30 and its like people want to be friendly and all. Understand all my life I was so use to having to go at things alone that now Im sorta of thrown off when a girl is attracted ot me or folks want to converse and be friends. im not frightened or afraid, it just feels wierd thats all.
Am I just being paronoid to have a shield up al the time when folks try to be friendly now ?
2007-01-30 01:52:12 · 11 answers · asked by Arthur D 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It never hurts to be a little wary of people who seem to wear their hearts on their sleeves or are a little too chummy from the outset but don't let that take over your life.
I'm pleased that you're meeting new people and making new friends and possibly developing great new relationships. Not all people are bad and hopefully, the folks you have in you're life now will enrich it and make it good for you.
2007-01-30 01:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by marykin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arthur, relax. It's not that your paranoid, but if your paranoid enuff. When was the last time you had your bedroom swept for bugs. Have you looked at the walls with a black lite, for hidden messages and nasty stains? They are watching you right now, and you-know, you shouldn't be doing that. Don't be a rule breaker. People are only nice to you to gain your confidence, first they suck you in, then they turn you in. Count your fingers. Don't bother talking to a shrink, they all work for the ATF, or NSA. If you want to know yourself better, call the FBI Isn't Paranoia Grand?
2007-01-30 10:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids tend to be cruel, and things in high school were at the peak of that.
Now that you're an adult, everyone you knew is all grown up and more mature. Don't sweat it. I think it's only normal.
When I went to my class reunion all the A**holes seemed to have matured and acted like social human beings.
2007-01-30 11:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by rob1963man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's terrific! Just enjoy and try to accept the new attention. Go with the flow. No need to be paranoid or nervous. Sounds great to me! I was totally in your shoes as a kid. Still sort of am. Enjoy!
2007-01-30 09:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by peace_love_granola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids can be mean and spiteful, Adults see life and people for what they are. You are probably a nice person with alot to offer and it seems like people are noticing it! Don't be paranoid enjoy the friends you are making and be happy!
2007-01-30 11:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sparkling♥Jules♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear Arthur try not to be afraid, it's completely normal, we are different someones are more sociable than others. I think that if you are worried about that is a good start, means that you are conscience and want a solution. Maybe you have fear to be refuse, I recommended to take a course of leader it would help you a lot. Try to take out all your fears! good luck.
2007-01-30 10:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being a bit too paranoid....If people are wanting to be your friend, and girls are being attracted to you then go with it, unless you make good money and people are only interested in your money, then go with it and have fun
2007-01-30 09:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by lil_luman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that just because you are paranoid it doesn't mean they are not out to get you....
You are suffering from slow self esteem - enjoy the attention that people pay you.
2007-01-30 12:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah man i can see dat u feel weird growen up wit no friends and all of da sudden erry one wanna be wit ya,its normal i dont think u being parranoid,just enjoy it and cruise along holmes
2007-01-30 09:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have developed some social anxiety
2007-01-30 10:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by phil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋