okay, well, my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 20 months now, and i dont think that i want to be with him any longer. we are not on the same level anymore. i am 16, and he is already talking about getting married. he is only 17, so dont worry about that, but this fall he will be 18, and he wants to join the navy, and he told me that he wants to marry me when i turn 18 (only 14 months... tear) but i dont want that kind of pressure, not to mention we just dont connect anymore. i know that at 16 you are going to say that i have no idea as to what "connecting" is about, but i do. we are working for different things in our lives.
so here is the question, how do i break up with him without killing him. i am like his world, and he is more like a best friend to me. if you were him, how would you want to be broken up with? let me know SOON!!!!
2007-01-30 01:49:51 · 7 answers · asked by smcopeland16 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok be totally honest. dont do it around a special ocassion cause that will make it worse. tell him exactly what you said in your post that you dont want to be pressured and that your not on the same page right now. do you want to be his friend or make a clean break? take that into consideration when breaking up with him. also dont pull a dissapearing act. one of the worse ways. finally do it in person he deserves that much. Good luck.
2007-01-30 01:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u sure that at the age of 16 u really understand the real import of the word connecting? did ur wisdom of 16 yrs fail to teach u that in love life it is also possible to feel some pressure?freind, rejecting someone u love is not the answer. why is it taht u two dont connect anymore. is it the pressure of marrying at the age of 18 that madeu distance urselves from him? i understand that marrying at the age of 18 is not a safe option. why dont u have a serious chat with him? tell him that before the age of 20 both of u are immature to take the deep plunge. he is full of plans and that mau not simply work out because life is so unpredictable. try to convince him that it will be better for ur combined future if u wait for some more years. u can attend the college. he can work and save for ur future. aferall u need to live somewhere and ahve a job to provide u with other facilitiess of life. breaking up with him is not the answer. convince him to release the pressure. enjoy ur relationship for some more time and get to know each other better before tying the knot. if he is ready to go according to ur plans why do u want to break up with him? think over it. can u find out a solution other than splititng? if u still cant convince urselves then be honest with him. tell him everything before he goes to join navy. all the best
2007-01-30 02:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by lilac4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound to be a mature 16 year old girl. Good to know you are not thinking of marriage at this time in your life. The only way to break up with someone is to be upfront and honest. People can sense when you are trying to be evasive which could lead to confusion. Say to him, "I loved the time we had but feel at this time in my life that I am not ready to make that move towards a serious commitment. We are both young right now and still have alot to do before we even can begin to think of marriage. I do hope we can at least remain friends". This way he will know you are not breaking up because of anything he did wrong. Good luck to you!
2007-01-30 03:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very wise! Start by putting some distance between you-don't see him as often, don't make ANY demands on his time or anything else. Then tell him calmly that you are re thinking your life and need some space to figure it out. Also, that you realize he will be meeting a lot of new people in the Nav,y so both of you should have the opportunity to freely date others. Still-keep withdrawing from him at a steady rate.
2007-01-30 02:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him exactly what you put in your question. Hell breaking up is hard to do his is young he will get over you! You were probably his first love! You will be surprised how quickly he moves on.
2007-01-30 02:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth about wat you think about your relationship.....do not lie to him and don`t forget to add that`s its your fault not his he will certainly not get that hurt since you have swallowed your pride
2007-01-30 02:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by babeschick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋