Actually I am pretty sure I know what she means, but I just don't know what to do....
There's this absolutely amazing girl at work. We get along so well, I haven't clicked with anyone like this in years, we enjoy each other's company outside of work, and even on the phone. The problem of course is she has a boyfriend for 4 years. I've never told her how I felt; normally I would play games with her, and find a way for her to dump her boyfriend, but for some reason I can't bring myself to do that with her...maybe I've mature (but probably not). Finally to get my mind off her, I decided to go out with this other girl; I like the other girl, but doesn't quite compare to the girl I really like.
When I told the girl at work about the other girl I was going out with, she said she didn't like her and seemed a little jealous...normally I would take this as a sign and do something about it; but I just can't bring myself to play games with her...what should I do? I can't stop thinking...
2007-01-30 01:43:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, she'll talk about her boyfriend occasionally but has never really said anything negative about her.
2007-01-30 01:46:17 · update #1
Good on you for not playing games... that is mature of you, so hats off to you!!!
Its a tricky situation... the girl you like is involved... even though she may have sounded jealous, she still has a boyfriend. Maybe, deep down, she is falling for you, maybe she is jealous... but dont act on any feelings... you dont want to be the cause of her failed relationship... i mean 4 years is a long time. Tell her you're seeing the other girl casually...if she feels that you're the one for her... then let her decide to end it with her current bf.
But dont play games!!! You're doing the right thing.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-30 01:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anfieldgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't jump the gun there and dump your current girlfriend in order to continue pursuing your coworker. Even though it doesn't seem like your co-worker likes your current girlfriend, I believe its more of a girl thing where she just doesn't like the other girl because she is a girl. Also she might think you don't play games with her anymore because of this other girl, so she thinks your girlfriend is changing you.
In my opinion, you are doing the right thing. If you felt you had no hope of getting that other girl from her long-time boyfriend you had to move on. you did what you had to do
2007-01-30 09:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by QB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, seems very inocent to me. She could be just a flirty type of person like myself, and likes to have fun with you. Do not take it that serious, she is not leaving her boyfriend for you, so don't make any plans. Stay away from the personal issues of eachother's life and you will remain friends for a long time. Then only time will tell. Just enjoy the friendship at this time.
2007-01-30 09:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants the best of both worlds. You have matured because you refuse to be the reason behind a breakup. If she is with someone, she's off limits. If she wants to see someone else, she can't have her cake and eat it too. I think you need to clear the air with her and explain that you will not date someone who is in a relationship, so you are looking elsewhere. If she has a problem with that, she needs to deal with her own emotional problems, and how to deal with them in a healthy manner, not by cheating. Take a stand, she's taken and not available in your eyes, make her see that too.
2007-01-30 09:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Christina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(little jealous...normally I would take this as a sign and do something about it; but I just can't bring myself to play games with her...what should I do? I can't stop thinking...) you just answered you own question- tell her that u love her
2007-01-30 09:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Hershey's Kiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you for not playing games ......but there is an alternative....you should tell her how you feel.....tell her that you respect the fact that she has a boyfriend.....and you don't want to be a part of breaking up that relationship ....but just tell her what you told us.....its obvious to me at least that you have very strong feelings for this girl.......if you tell her how you feel and she doesn't feel the same for you....at least you can move forward and not wonder what she's feeling for you......good luck
2007-01-30 09:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what do she think of u two's relationship ...since she obviously have a boyfriend (meaning she's in a commitment and are NOT AVAILABLE).
that way u know where you stand.
Otherwise,you can opt to leave her out of this and try to know and like the new girl as she's AVAILABLE and are yours alone if you're dating her
2007-01-30 09:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by littlemunkay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games with you. She doesn't intend to break up with her boyfriend but she likes the fact that you are dumb enough to give her your exclusive attention.
2007-01-30 09:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Tanya Pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how u feel, and if the other girl doesn't compare to the girl your talkin to now stop seeing her that's all there is to it.
2007-01-30 09:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop comparing the girl that u love and the one that u're dating..
and btw, 4 years??they should have married..
2007-01-30 09:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by frozentrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋