Me and my fiance have been together for the last year and a half, but as we have arguments quite often, it happens that we do not speak to each other for few days afterwards.... and I mean he says he loves me, but I want him to be mad about me just as he was when we started dating... These arguments are mainly, because I need more sex, or shall I say, I say that I need sex more then twice a week.... and he is just so tired. He does have a difficult job, but still.... sometimes I feel like he does not care.... so help me, make him going wild about me... help me to make him falling again, for me... pls
2007-01-30 01:43:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know this sounds really old fashioned but how about going on a date to the cinema/movies and maybe a meal afterwards.
get dressed up for you night out and remind him of what fun you used to have together.
also to stop arguing of the sex thing I'd buy myself a bunny/vib but tell him it's not as good as the real thing, (it'll make his day)
2007-01-30 01:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by doughnut1002001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pressurising him into thinking he HAS to have sex more than he feels he can manage can't be helping at all. It's more likely to prevent him wanting to do it/ being able to do it.
He has a difficult job you say, so how about helping him to unwind after a hard day, things may come more naturally when he is chilled out and relaxed. Plan an evening of relaxation, run him a hot bath with soft lighting (blokes do actually like this sort of thing), maybe a massage afterwards, you don't have to be a professional, any basic massage oil from Boots etc will do the trick and just rub your hands over his skin, this will instantly relax anyone. If you can't do this, maybe just a head or hand and foot massage will work just as fine. Make it as relaxing as you can, think about the music also. Maybe afterwards snuggle up for a film, make it last an evening. He will be more receptive to sexy feelings and responding to them when he has no pressure.
It may not lead to sex the first time, infact don't expect it or he'll think that was all you did it for, but helping him to unwind with no pressure on 'the deed' will show him that you care about him, not just the sex. This act in itself may show him the person he fell in love with and bring back the spark.
Focus on doing things together that are not sex related and don't expect it to lead to something all the time, most people fall in love at the start of a relationship without even having sex yet so re-create those times (unless of course you went straight for it and slept with him!).
You say you think he doesn't care anymore, maybe he thinks the same about you, put the effort in on both sides as a relationship is 2 sided. Acknowledge he has a stressful job and help him to cope with it, it may be helping him to earn better money for both of your futures, you say he's your fiance so I assume you are getting married and starting a life together.
2007-01-30 02:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a good chance that outside factors are the main problem with your relationship. A healthy sex life can not always be maintained when one party is working a lot or has problems sleeping. I know when I'm tired sex is the furthest thing from my mind. At the same time it should not be the thing that underpins your relationship.
I think there is a good chance he does love you as much as he used to and if you can book some time off together ( maybe a week or two ) then you'll see what I mean. If you love him then you'll have to forgive him for being tired and for a few weeks without sex.
2007-01-30 01:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be totally effortlessly sexy. Turn him on innocently, as in your doing on it on purpose but he doesn't know that. Buy some gorgeous new underwear, dab on a bit of natural make-up and then innocently walk into the room he's in and ask him what he thinks of your new underwear. His eyes should be on stalks by now (unless he's gay) Or you could try doing something new in the bedroom. Men like spontaneity. Try hot baths together with massage oils. Then give him a relaxing massage to relieve any stress of work and then work ur magic!
If this really does not work, you need to have a heart to heart with him. Gud luck xx
2007-01-30 02:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever stopped to ask him what he wants, you know it takes two to make a relationship work and if your demanding more sex and not giving him a chance to say what he wants then you need to stop and listen.
You need to learn to compromise.
2007-01-30 02:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and talk to him about how you feel maybe you two can come up with a plan on when to have sex so your both satisfied. Good luck.
2007-01-30 01:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean 2 sound harsh but huni you cant make someone fall in love with you again.. God knows iv tryed..
What will be, will be!!!!
2007-01-30 02:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book a surprise weekend away together.
2007-01-30 01:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you cant make someone fallin love with you it just happens nothing should be a lie youo shouldnt be who you can not continue to be.be your self get a vibrator
2007-01-30 01:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by tammie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him you care
2007-01-30 01:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by SKINNY BONES 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋