What's wrong with me?

Question

my grandfather died in November and i guess i wasn't that close to him i actually don't really miss him that much i've never cryed or anything even at the funeral what's the matter should i be sad?

Answer 1

dont worry about it love, the exact same thing happened to me ON my 21st birthday which is 4years ago now. My granfather died in his bed,any way, I knew him and spoke to him etc but was not close to him like the majority of grandfathers and granddaughters are (you no what i mean). Anyway when i had found out that he had died,it really didnt affect me in anyway at all,where as my sisters and brother were all really reall histerical,but i didnt cry,or hurt for him or long for him or even wish that he was still alive, even when i went to his funeral, still nothing changed.
Also last year about 8weeks after my birthday another of my grandsfathers died but this time i spent alot more time with this grandfather,i was with him 3times a week minimum,sometimes more,and i stayed over once or twice a week too, and i loved every second that i spent with him, anyway to cut a very long story short, he also died- in hospital this time, but when i found out again i didnt cry though i did think of him slightly but only for about an hour, and again when i went to the funeral i was expecting to get really really sad and i was expecting that i would be crying for hours considering how close i was to him, but i didnt not even one tear.. So do not worry yourself over the fact that you did not cry at your grandfathers death or funeral because it does mean that you are a heartless person etc, There are a wide majority of people in the world that are just like you and me and just dont cry at funeralds etc regardless of whom it may be.So just stop your worrying and be happy that he no longer has to suffer in this world. and get on with your life the way you want it to be etc... Dont forget to BE HAPPY AND DO NOT WORRY.

Answer 2

People react to death very differently. If you were not very close with your grandfather, his death would not be very life changing, I imagine. Did he lead a full life? Was he suffering? If the answers to those questions are yes, there may be a certain amount of relief over his passing. Not everyone cries at funerals. People show their grief in very different ways. There is not a right or wrong way, as long as you are not bottling up your feelings. Maybe your questioning your behavior now has a little something to do with missing him or missing out on getting to know him. Hope you find some closure.

Answer 3

November is not that far away. Whether your close to someone or not does not determine if you cry at the funeral. Some people are just not cryiers. As far as missing him, who knows months down the road something may remind you of him and you will think about him. (That is missing ). Also you took the time to ask this question so you are obviously thinking about him ( again missing ).

Answer 4

There is no right or wrong way to mourn someone you don't know. It all depends on how well your friendship or relationship was with him. If you barely knew him then it is not uncommon to not feel sad or sorry. Just because someone shares the same blood doesn't mean that you have to sad or cry. On the other hand perhaps you are coming to terms with it and the tears will come once you've got your head around it. Your grief depends on the strength of your attachment. If it wasn't that strong then there is absolutely nothing wrong with you

Answer 5

Well there is nothing wrong with you. We have to have a relationship with someone not only a title that determines how we feel. I understand how you feel. I have had many ppl in my life die. I am known as a loving person, but i dont cry everytime someone dies. When my father died I died a little also. But when my grandparents all died I did not cry either. I did not have close relationship with them. Yet when my dog of 11 yrs. just got hit and killed a few days ago,i cried. I had close relationship with him. Plz do not feel there is something wrong with you. Also crying has alot to do with how well you deal with things. maybe you are of the personality that is able to deal with life and death. When we cry in death, is we that we are mourning for. Our own loss, not that of the deseased. So maybe you do not feel sorry for yourself easily, that is a good thing. Take heart and courage to know you are fine. And may God Bless You always.

Answer 6

Everyone deals with death in their own way and the same is true of grief. If you weren't that close to him then maybe you're not missing or mourning him. That would be perfectly natural.
If you were closer than you admit and you're bottling up your grief and loss, then it's not a good thing at all.
I wouldn't worry about not feeling what other members of your family are feeling. You're an individual and if this doesn't affect you then that's just the way it is.

Answer 7

Saddness is usually brought on by bondness with the person. If you really didn't connect with him much, and wasn't close, it is only normal that you wouldn't feel sad. Don't be to hard on yourself. Can't miss someone that you really didn't know. I am
sure if someone close to you passed away, you would feel saddness and you would cry. If you can think of one person that you would cry about losing, then you know your normal. So no hardfeelings with your pop. You just get to know what you could miss.

Answer 8

If you don't have a strong relationship with a person, it is normal to not to cry. As long as you feel some general sadness that a life has been lost, not feeling personal grief and crying over it is understandable.

Answer 9

Everybody deals with grief in different ways. It's okay that you didn't cry at the funeral. Sorry about your grandfather.

Answer 10

People respond to death in a lot of different ways and not crying is one of them. It's very normal, especially if you two weren't very close. If I were you I wouldn't worry about it, just remember to respect those around you who are missing him and are crying.

Take care.