I had a birthday party for my son's 2nd BD on Saturday and want to know if I should write or call the invitees for coming, or should they thank me for inviting them? What is proper. Gifts were brought and I verbalized a thank you. One of the guest was a new friend I have met who brought her daughter. SHe has yet to call, email or make any communication since. More curious about her, should I take a hint that she doesn't want to be my friend because she didn't follow up? In addition, her daughter's BD (sameage) is this week and I have yet to be invited to that party. Weird situation.
2007-01-30 01:34:55 · 13 answers · asked by dreamsykel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Her party is at party is a Little Gym, not a small family party.
2007-01-30 01:42:16 · update #1
They should have thanked you for inviting them before they left and you should have thanked them for coming. Many people also do send thank you notes for the gifts that were given to their children and that is certainly an option, but generally not necessary or expected for a children's b-day party.
Reciprocity is not a given for kids b-day parties. First of all, their plans may have been made well in advance. Secondly, she may feel that a smaller is better and limited the number of people she invited. You also need to consider that when people have parties outside their home they usually have to pay per person and/or book the party for a certain number of people weeks in advance.
I'd wait a couple of weeks and then try to arrange a play date - if she declines, then you might want to take a hint...
2007-01-30 01:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A thank-you note is the most appropriate and it goes a long way. Send one regardless of whether a gift was given. It is not necessary for a guest to send a card, although, it goes a long way in strengthening a relationship. Do not worry about others' shortcomings in regard to proper etiquette, you do your part. You take the initative and call her, thanking her for attending. You will find out whether she is interested in becoming a closer friend, if not, go on and do not take it personally. It will also most likely relieve her of any feelings that she may have regarding your acceptance of her. We also cannot put our demands on others. There may be many good reasons why you were not invited to her daughter's party, none of them meant to insult or hurt you. Do not sweat the small stuff! I do not believe in a tit for tat relationship with others. It will always set you up for disappointment and it is not fair to others!
2007-01-30 09:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by robin s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always up to the person who received the gifts to thank people for them, and it is polite to thank people for coming to your party. I have never heard of someone waiting for a thank you for having been invited to a party ... esp. a child's birthday party. If your 'new friend' hasn't invited you it's possible that she's been so busy planning her daughter's 2nd birthday party that she hasn't even thought about 'new' people - she could be trying to make sure she's invited all the grandparents, etc.
2007-01-30 09:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Angelini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should send thank you notes to everybody for coming and bringing a gift. A verbalized thank you is okay at the party but you need to send a follow up note in the mail. The "new" friend maybe she is having a small family party.??? Don't worry about it.
2007-01-30 09:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The thank you needs to come from you, in writing, to each and every person that was there emphasizing the gift they brought. For example:
"Dear Kathy,
I was very thrilled you and your daughter Annie could make it. Little Sue is absolutely in love with the gorgeous Barbie doll she got from you, and I can hardly get her to stop playing with it enough to sit down at the dinner table.
Thank you for everything, and I hope we can see each other soon - a playdate maybe."
As far as you not getting an invitation to the other birthday party, there's really not much you can do but give her the thank you card and hope she comes to her senses.
2007-01-30 09:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by anouk_zeina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not everyone will contact you after attending a party. Just think about it, how much fun do you have attending other people's 2 year old's parties?! And you expect someone to call you after the party to thank you for that?
2007-01-30 13:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a thank-you card to everyone. Perhaps the new person just has decided not to invite anymore people. It shouldn't matter, everyone is different. But definitely write everyone a thank-you. A verbal isn't good enough on its own.
2007-01-30 11:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not a weard situation, its a little boys birthday party. I am so sick of everyone these days expecting thank you cards for everything. If its not a wedding or graduation party, you have no OBLIGATION to send anything. Its nice sometimes to recieve them but unless its one of those two situations, I would never notice not recieving one and anyone who does, you probably don't want to be their friend anyway.
2007-01-30 09:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by Relax Guy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send the people whom attended the party a thank-you card,Thanking them for the gift that they brought for your child.
2007-01-30 09:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be nice, thank them all for sharing in the birthday party.
2007-01-30 09:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋