also, will they provide her any assistance? maybe a shelter or something until the baby is born?
2007-01-30 01:31:05 · 27 answers · asked by Randy 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
His Chain of Command. If she is afraid to go to the unit, she can go to the MPs (Military Police) and file a report. His unit will be immediately notified. MCCS Family Assistance can assist her. But, the first thing is first, have her report it now.
2007-01-30 03:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Mui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notifying his top kick would be OK, but I would go to his C.O. The reason being. his top kick is an enlisted man and his first loyalty's would be to his men, as it should be. The first Sgt. might try to talk to the Marine in question, try to help him, but that would just tip off the abuser and make it worse. I don't know how the Marines operate but I was Army Airborne and our top was always there for us and do anything he could. If the C.O. gets word first, it lets the first Sgt off the hook and keeps the problem in the company. The C.O. will take care of it, company punishment, call the M.P.s are what ever. Of course if the abuse is taking place right then and there, don't Waite to the next day to call his C.O. call the M.P.s immediately. They have a FAST response time. But I just want to add one thing. Yes he is an abuser, but he must have some demons of his own. Don't forget he is a volunteer, he is serving you and me. It's easy to sit back and judge someone, so don't be to quick to kick him when he's down.Maybe if you had to walk a mile in his shoes you would show a little compassion for that Marine. If the Corp has counseling maybe that would do the trick. I was in the 101st. Airborne and worked with some Marine Recon types and I have a lot of respect for the Corp Semper Fi.
2007-01-30 04:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by c321arty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-She is asked everytime she goes in for her monthly check-up whether or not she is being abused, so usually a Corspman would be first, but she would probably be more comfortable speaking with her OB/GYN. She could also go down to his Battalion and speak with his First Sergeant. Sometimes Gunny's and MasterGuns are too involved with the enlisted and try to downplay the reality.
-Yes they will provide her assistance. There is counseling up at mental health, and they have visiting nurses to help out with other things, like after baby is born- classes and marriage counseling, etc. This is a *big* deal in the Corps. They will pull the marine from base housing and make him live in the barracks, and may even take away his liberty privileges of leaving the barracks, which means that he will be either be serving duty on the weekends or be spending a lot of time in his room with the OOD. (They'll do the same thing if one member is cheating, too.) They will make him attend anger management, but they cannot "punish" him if there is no proof. They can only prevent it from happening again.
2007-01-30 02:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a marine wife, but I am an army wife and it all pretty much works the same.
First I would recommend going to her OB. He/she can be of the greatest help seeing as she is pregnant. They also keep shelter contacts just for this purpose. Once she gets them involved, its going to be a whole new ball game. They will either give her the info and let her handle it or start the process themselves. Typically the latter.
If it is left up to her, she needs to first notify the post chaplain and family affairs office. She needs to get EVERYBODY involved. Then they will most likely notify his chain of command, and they will deal with him.
As long as they are married he MUST still support them, even if she is in the shelter. (he won't know where she is located).
I STRONGLY recommend getting the OB and chaplain involved BEFORE going to his chain of command. Granted most chains of command are going to take immediate action, but occasionally they do drop the ball. By going to the others first she has some back up and documentation.
They will of course recommend charges being filed, and she NEEDS to be sure she is willing to push this. If she doesn't see it through it will get a lot worse on her.
Good Luck
2007-01-30 02:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should notify the Base Chaplain, she should not wait until the next time, she should just go and see him, discuss in private.
Chaplains have an open door policy with the C.O.'s if this does not resolve it, she should leave him, its not the Marine Corps
its he is an abuser they come from all back grounds and perform all jobs. Trust me though the punishment in the military for any behavior unbecoming is much more harsh then the outside.
If they live in base housing, he will have to vacate for awhile, base housing is for the dependents. They will move him into a barracks and get him some counseling. He will be forbidden to come near the house.
2007-01-30 01:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Rick D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best people to contact for direction would be the Marine Corp wife's club. Each military branch is a little different in how a situation like this is handled. Also if his wife is not in the military she can waltz right up to her husbands CO and demand to speak with him without worry of getting in trouble. The base chaplain can also give direction. Whatever it takes- just don't let him keep abusing you without getting help.
2007-01-30 05:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by jeremiah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living on base, contact the Military Police. The military has a zero tolerance for spousal abuse. If you are living on the economy, contact the local police department and have him arrested.
As far as assistance goes, you could move back home and Tricare should take care of the medical expenses. Make sure that his commander is notified if he is arrested by local authorities. You want to make sure you get the BHA, he is paid that extra money for YOUR support.............
2007-01-30 02:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has some options here. She could notify his chain of command. Like his LT or Captain. There should be some kind of family support group on base. That might be the safest route. Assistance should be available for most of her needs. It's not uncommon so there should be a process set up.
2007-01-30 01:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you implying that the pregnant wife should even consider staying with the abuser? Get her off the military base and proceed with criminal prosecution. No one deserves to be abused. There are lots of people willing to help battered spouses. The first step is get some distance between the woman and man.
2007-01-30 01:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overseas, or stateside? On base, or off base?
If stateside and off base, notify the civilian law enforcement agency and go the hospital. You MUST have a doctor's verification of the physical abuse.
If stateside, and ON base, or overseas, contact the military police, and go to the hospital (see above).
You do NOT need to notify the command if you follow the above directions. The command will be notified when the service member is arrested.
2007-01-30 01:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by My world 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋