A coworker sent me an email that I was too weird for him to be friends with because I was sending him mixed signals. We had been close for awhile and I told him it was best that we ignore each other so I can get over my crush on him since he already has a gf. Anyway during all of this, he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, of course I said yes, since I liked him.
Then I called him a dog via text since he jerked my feelings around and wrote a letter apologizing to him. This is what provoked him to ignore me for the past month. Yesterday, he looked at me like he wanted to say hello and I emailed him asking hihim if we could just treat each other like coworkers and say hello. He emailed me back saying that I was too weird to be his friend and that we should just continue ignoring each other for both his and my sake and that i was wrong for wanting to hook up with him since he already has a gf. I didn't respond back to him, since he asked me not to. But then he got mad. ??
2007-01-30 01:23:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you have learned a valuable lesson related to the problem with dating co-workers. You can't turn back the hands of time, but you can keep a safe distance from this jerk. He's definitely not the 'supportive type' and seems to be trying to play 'head games' with you. Since he said you're too weird to be his friend, I'd personally take him at his word and something would have to freeze over before I communicated with him again. He's not even loyal to his 'girlfriend' so there's no reason to believe he'd be a good friend for you. You've attempted to make this too easy for him. Quit trying to spare his feelings, b/c he seems like he's doing just fine. Worry about yourself and getting your own act together before it affects your work. He sounds like a potential enemy and a vicious one at that. Beware!
2007-01-30 01:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he has a girlfriend you have no business being interested in him.Secondly it is never a good idea to get involved with someone that you work with.I suggest you stay clear of him and leave him alone.It sound's like both of you are acting very childish.The fact that you want to hook up with someone that is already involved with someone else does not speak very highly of you as a person.And he is obviously a cheater you should have more repsect for yourself.
2007-01-30 09:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you are sending mixed signals. You tell him you have a crush on him, then you tell him to ignore you. You say yes to his advances, then you call him names and ask to keep your distance. You have no idea what you want, so how can he know. You say one thing and do another. Men don't operate on clues or hints. Men earn respect from others only if they are who they say they are and only if their words and actions match up. These same rules of integrity and constancy should apply to women-- and they do apply. To WOMEN, not mixed up girls. Be a woman. Grow up and figure out what you really want to be as a person, and what you want out of life. Only then will you get it. Good luck to you.
2007-01-30 09:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is important to you? Is he worth all these changes? Mixed signals. What do you want out of this relationship?
2007-01-30 09:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him. If he's going to be a jerk, than that doesn't mean you have to let him get to you.
2007-01-30 09:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by retooser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize how many times you have asked this SAME question?
2007-01-30 09:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋