He and I have dated off and on for six years.
The first two years were great, we loved each other sooo much.
But, over the years, it just seems differrent.
He goes out and we don't really do a whole lot together.
I dont like fussing and nagging at him, and saying all the time WE NEVER DO NOTHING.
Am I doing something wrong or saying it wrong?
2007-01-30 01:12:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Schedule date nights. Schedule fun times. Surprise him with something fun. Men and women are different in relationships. Women get comfortable and want their guy around more. Guys get comfortable and think it is ok to spend more time with their friends.
It's called life. Sit him down and talk to him, but most of all let him know that you are feeling left out. Once he knows this, I'm sure he'll try to include you more and more into his daily schedule.
2007-01-30 01:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was with my ex for 6 years and ur situation sounds so familiar. we were so in love at first and did everything together and we were so perfect and then it started to get bad. we started doing things seperately and we fought a lot, and then i heard rumors of him cheating on me. so investigated a little and he was, stupid me stayed w/him for 6 years knowing he was lying and cheating the whole time until finally one day i just could'nt take it anymore and i left. Do u want this to happen to u? i am not saying that he is cheating-don't let me put those ideas in ur head cuz i don't know how ur relationship is-all i'm saying is it sounds like u are starting down the same road. just don't be nieve or stupid, pick up clues and do not be afraid to leave. it was the hardest thing i ever had to do, but now 3 years later i am happier than ever-single, but happy-and we are friends now. we can talk and joke about anything. he has a nother girlfriend and i amd kinda seeing someone. hope this helps u a little. good luck.
2007-01-30 01:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jasm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never stop enjoying doing things together, so the fact that he is going out without you shows he doesn't enjoy your company anymore. Sometimes these things just happen and before you get caught up even more in this unhappy relationship - move on. There are better guys out there who will respect you and treat you like a queen, so though it hurts, you need to sit down and think through your relationship and your happiness, and consider moving on with your life.
2007-01-30 01:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by JennyRose 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you just need to spice things up, or do something together that's as interesting as having sex.
Most couples have difficulties in the number "3".
3rd date, 3rd month, 3rd year, have 3rd child or not.
When those times goes well, things will be great.
If you are not having any positive aspects from being with him, you should get separated. It's really a waste of time...
2007-01-30 01:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This worked for me. You make some plans for the 2 of you, like dinner or an out-of-town trip so you both can reconnect with one another. Time away from your current place, usually works wonders.
2007-01-30 01:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by ashleyjones21 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON IT HE DON'T WANT TO MAKE A COMMENT OR HE ALREADY WOULD BY NOW SO GO AND FIND SOMEBODY ELSE HE IS NOT THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOU,IF HE'S THAT BORING TO BE WITH JUST IMAGINE WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE MARRIED TO HIM.SOUNDS LIKE TO ME HE DON'T LOVE YOU NO MORE OR HE DON'T HAVE THE SAME FEELINGS HE ONCE HAD
2007-01-30 01:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by DRAG MAN 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds as if he is tired of the relationship, doesn't see u in the same light as he use to. he is not being fair to u, maybe its time to confront him, find out what is in his heart. if he goes out without u there is a problem within the relationship, he show u no respect.
2007-01-30 01:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO. IT MAY JUST MEAN THAT THE RELATIONSHIP HAS REACHED IT HIGH POINT. THINGS ARE ALWAYS GOOD IN THE BEGINNING. THEN THINGS GET FADED AND YOU AREN'T WEARING ROSE COLORED GLASSES ANYMORE. SIX YEARS IS A LONG TIME. MAYBE IT'S TIME TO DECIDED WHETHER TO COMMIT OR MOVE ON.
2007-01-30 01:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like both of you have been married for a long time. lol
2007-01-30 01:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by Zimone78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have either of you calmly discussed some of the things you both like doing and perhaps you both could find something you could do together
2007-01-30 01:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by precious_52803 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋