WHY are majority of women so needy and desperate?

Question

They want to bag the 'perfect' man who will be loyal to them and love them no matter what.

Is this because they lack love/support from family and friends? What makes these women so insecure?

They want the perfect man - yet they are not perfect themselves and lack confidence greatly. What intelligent man would want them??

BUT WHY DO WOMEN NEED MEN TO MAKE THEM HAPPY?

I DONT - I AM HAPPY ON MY OWN

Answer 1

women who are insecure and needing love 24/7 are probably those who lack attention and love when they were a child from their parents or acceptance among their peers. it is a vacuum that is left which they seek and hope their perfect man can fulfil. but then alas, we know no one is perfect and it is an issue they have to resolve themselves else they be seeking love for the wrong reasons and wrong places.

Answer 2

All men want to feel needed so they are drawn to that type woman.
However, once they get her and realise how needy and clingy she is and how hateful she can be once she does not get her way all the time they then look elsewhere to those of us who are confident and can handle things ourselves.
I don't know how many men I have had hit on me and they all say the same thing- you are not like my wife/girlfriend- you can handle things on your own and I realise now how much that is an asset.
Yeah- well guess what. I can handle things on my own and I don't need a man that cannot be faithful or happy with what he has at home. So they are left in the cold and I am still alone.

It is the same no matter where you are. They were young when they got married and thought the woman needing them was a good thing- then life hit them hard and they realise that they are RESPONSIBLE for that person because she chooses not to handle things without him. It becomes the old ball and chain and they feel trapped.

MEN it is not an afront to your manliness for a woman to have her own ideas or be responsible enough to have a career and still want children too. If she makes more money than you it doesn't mean she is too controlling. Give us confident women a chance to WANT you ( not NEED you ) and you might be pleasantly surprised at how good it can be.

SO I think that women learn what works to get the man from an early age and a lot of women are taught from example that to get a man you have to exude those qualities ( neediness- don't step on their ego ). In this day and age there is no exuse for it and it is a mental thing that even some churches teach- the man is the head of the household etc. That, by the way, does not mean the woman is inferior it just means the man is responsible for his house. We twist it to make it seem the woman is totally dependent on a man and cannot manage without one. It will take a lot of years for our mentality to change and for us to be seen as true equals.

Answer 3

HELLO?This is 2007 & the Majority of women are not needy & desperate as you put it,although of course there are some women who fit that category.Some women think its their right to be looked after by a man probably because of the way they've been brought up or as you say they lack confidence.On the other hand some men like it that they can look after & provide for their women,they can find independant women a threat,but as the years go by women are getting more independant & equal to men so the needy,desperate women are becoming few & far between.

Answer 4

You know what I truely beleave that there is someone out there for everyone , and to put women down like that , women have come along way . Most women were brought up to live in kitchens and in bedrooms , and to when we were small what did most of us dream about ? Fantisy yes but we wanted to have that white knight to come along and swoop us up with the Cinderella Gown on we were taught this from the get go .I also know that women are not week and all men are not bad , rich , and good looking so , stop and think a min .A woman as a man are people with feelings this is not different , so dont be so hard on some women that dont see things the same way you do .

Answer 5

Most likely it's probably due to being insecure for whatever reason, and needing attention from men to feel secure. Also, hollywood has made us feel that without a man we're not enough. Ladies, if you're not enough without a man, you'll never be enough with one. Hollywood also has us thinking that the perfect man is out there, and we won't find happiness until we find him. Every man has flaws. It's whether or not you can accept them is what makes him perfect for you. A guy may not be perfect for you, but he may be perfect for someone else. And it's only "perfect" if they both know they're perfect for each other.

Answer 6

For myself, I do not need the 'perfect' man, I just need the perfect man for me. I don't care if my fiance throws his dirty clothes all over the floor, chews with his mouth open, and has other flaws because I know emotionally he is there for me, loves me, and cheating / divorce is not even words that are in our vocabulary when discussing our relationship.

No one is perfect, and no one expects men / women to be perfect. However, we should respect our own self enough to find the person perfect for us. If we don't, then we'll live in a miserable state, and I for one refuses to do that.

Answer 7

The reason most women are this way is because idiots that they fall in love with don't tell them how they feel or compliment them or do anything to make them feel remotely special.

So i think the real question is why are men so incapable of loving a women for who they are? And the answer is, because they are to busy loving themselves.

Answer 8

Okay usually when a girl tries to find the 'perfect' guy thats because all other guys that shes ever been with have hurt her, let her down ext. and she wonders is there one out there or are all guys like that ones that have hurt me and am I to end up being hurt once more. I have a drunk for a father who always mentally hurt me and broke promises so as I got older I feared love and people making promises. Well Im with this great guy now, for a year now and at one point we broke up because I fell in love with him well we talked and it turns out he was just like me and we got back together and now theres no fear. Its just something that you have to personally over come.

Answer 9

I don't think needy and desperation are gender specific. I've seen plenty of men behave this way too. It all boils down to insecurity and not being comfortable being alone. Society, even our own friends teach us that we aren't complete without having someone in our lives. The media teaches us there are "perfect" people and relationships out there. Choose reality or preconcieved notions...it's all dependent on how secure and happy you are with yourlself.

Answer 10

hmm... i don't just think its the women here, i've read lots of guys write similar things, just from their perspective... and i'm not also sure its about being needy or desperate or wanting somebody perfect... people just articulate things differently from each other... and since this is an anonymous forum, they're quite open about what they want, often to the point of being narcissistic, but i wouldn't take what people have written as face value.. i'm guessing a lot of it is just aspirational and a little tongue in cheek...