He was saying bad stuff to me,for example, that in all the time he'd known me that it was just sex for him. Over the years I had asked him why he came back and he would lie and say that it was through affection for me. Now he says it was just sex!!!
Needless to say , i was a little angry.
So i texted him saying some nasty but true things. Then he texted back asking me not to hurt him!!!
Is this guy a power crazy creep or what?
does anyone know he is thinking?
2007-01-30 00:55:58 · 21 answers · asked by kiku 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE WON'T STAY AWAY THO! AND I DON'T MEAN TO BUT HE WEARS ME DOWN.
I'VE TOLD HIM NOT TO COME ROUND ANY MORE- I'LL SEE HOW IT GOES!
2007-01-30 03:41:05 · update #1
he thinks he can go round hurting people but doesn't like it when the boot is on the other foot, and he is on the receiving end. He is selfish, immature and lacking in empathy.
Stay away from him, the guy's a user and a taker.
Hope you meet someone nicer next time round..............
2007-01-30 01:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by pstzqueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sick part about all that is he probably is looking at it as he was finally being truthful and thinks you'd respect him because of the honesty even though it's obviously not the best news. He probably looks at whatever you said as you just trying to hurt him to get even. But yeah...to answer your last question – definitely one twisted man who obviously enjoys having power over the relationship. Sounds like my ex....thinks he has all the power because unlike a guy...as girls we have feelings and have devoted time and effort into the relationship and still put ourselves back into a less than great situation thinking it will be better. All the guy sees is that he can choose to toss you to the side whenever and his girl will still continue to take him back. The best way to deal with him...is absolutely no communication what so ever. Then....move on.
2007-01-30 09:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both hurting right now so are lashing out.Take a step back from each other and cease all contact!Don't have any conversations whether it's by text or in person (if you have children then you will have to talk to him obviously but keep it to being just about kids).Men lie-that's a fact,it's genetically programmed into them so they can't help it-it's called the male ego,he probably does mean what he originally said but his pride is making him say it was just sex,he obviously didn't expect you to retaliate and is upset but so are you after being told he used you for sex-you've both given as good as you got so just walk away at least for the time being until you cool down.
2007-01-30 09:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by munki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am with you. I mean no one wants to be seen as just an "object" for anyone. So basically he was just telling you what you wanted to hear to get "sex" and now he is angry because you are calling him out on his tacky behavior??? I think you are justified in telling him how you feel...essentially "used" for starters. He sounds pretty disturbed actually. What he is thinking is that since the relationship is "over" how can I hurt this woman the best and protect my self-esteem. I think it is just a great learning experience for you...and definitely you will be more selective next time. I would not even give him one more push of a finger in the form of a text message...can you just block him???
2007-01-30 09:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter ? He is your EX. Sounds like he can dish it out but can't take it. Suggest one more text just saying ' the truth hurts doesn't it?'. the turn the phone off and get a new one. Cut contact with him and move on. Even of you have children the only point of connection should be them.
2007-01-30 09:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said it was just sex you should believe him. A man is not going to go looking for it if he can get it at home. If I were a man I'd probably be the same. Also men aren't generally known as having much in the "feelings" department.
2007-01-30 09:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is hurt and was lashing out. Try this. Stop talking to him, he is an EX.
Man where does this need to remain friends come from? Once you become romantic it can never be thte same. If the relationship ends badly you can never be true friends.
2007-01-30 09:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds real crazy to me ... but often men seem to think of getting hurt in other means as women do.
maybe hes trying to breakup with out hurting himself ... building up a wall by reducing everything to sex and when u tell him the truth u get trough that wall and hit!
2007-01-30 09:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by SunnyBoy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that he is your EX should mean that you are no longer going out with him. Therefore you should disconnect from him completely and move on. Remember the good times you when when you were going out. Any that happens after is in spite of the fact that you are no longer together. Chin up, butt/hiney out.
2007-01-30 09:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Hard Doodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he tells u he is just in it for sex then why do u want someone like that in ur life? it is very obvious that he dose'nt love u because if u really love someone then u could never hurt tham like that. i say u should move on to someone who will treat u the right way.
2007-01-30 09:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jasm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋