i suffered a miscarage on news years day after being beaten up by my partner and now im pregnant again and dont know what to do i am so scared and dont know how to tell him please help !!!
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2007-01-30 00:26:53 · 16 answers · asked by Bipolar-Bird88 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
only u can decide how and when to tell him babe, make sure he is in a good mood first, mind u , is that possible. but only you can decide when to tell him because you can only tell him when you feel ready to tell him. i suppose the easiest thing to do is get someone else to tell him or tell him over the phone, i am so happy for you babe , i love u to pieces . just keep it in your mind whether you feel ready to tell him , because with every action comes a consequence. i love you , come over tonight and i will make u a cheese and onion sandwhich, with salad cream, packet of crisps, cheese and onion rolls, or a cheese and vegeteable pie with chips and beans or something, just look after yourself , and **** everyone else. love ya. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-02-01 22:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about not tell him and leave him. He obivously does not love you if he is going to beat you. Are you sure you are pregnant again so soon? Sometimes the hcg hormone can stay in the body for up to 3 wks. Do not put yourself in a bad situation.. make sure that you are pregnant by a doctor and then find a way to get out and away from your partner. If not.. and you make it through this pregnancy.. he will continue to beat you and then start on the child.. which could kill either one of you. Make a smart choice and stand up for yourself. I pray that you can get the help you need.
2007-01-30 08:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him and put some type of restraining order against that man. A man like that isn't worth anything and if you want to have this baby and give him/her a good life, you will have to leave him. I have had family members watch how their parents are fighting and the fathers beating up their mothers and I affects them a lot. I've seen them be traumatized and affect their behavior and their thoughts. Many times the children blame themselves. I know it's hard but you have to put you and your baby first. There are shelters that you can go to for help.
2007-01-30 09:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by arwin_aragorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never advocate lying to your partner, under normal condition but this dosen't seem to be normal. I would...
1.Leave immediately. Leave the house, leave the city, leave the state if you have to.
2.Don't tell him that you are pregnant. That would just be a reason for him to try to hold on to you tighter.
Leave this man because if he beat you bad enough to make you loose your baby the next time it could be your life on the line.
and when you feel sad and you wish you had this man back in your life find solace in the fact that the life in your belly will be safe from harm. After all, that is your responsibility.
good luck.
2007-01-30 08:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off there is no way in hell I would have stayed with him to begin with if he beat me up and made me miscarry. Sorry to tell you but you are in a bad relationship. I would get out of the relationship first then when you feel its safe tell him. Its not good to put your self in that situation no matter what. Pregnant or not.
Whats most important is keeping this new baby safe do what ever you have too.
2007-01-30 08:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by lg112680 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U need to leave him immediately to protect yourself and the child
u are carrying. Go to your Moma's or grandma or sister or anyone.
One thing he will have to pay u child support.
Dont let him get any more evil power over u and get a peace bond to keep him away.
Go to your local clerks office and the law will send him a peacebond to keep him away from u.
U got to be courageous and take action immediately.
Prayer will help u also, keep a bible verse in your brain when he is around to fight off his evil spirits.
2007-01-30 08:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, go and pack all your stuff and leave. Make sure he doesn't know where to find you. You deserve better than to live with the man who murdered your child. Why on earth are you putting up with that. Anything else has got to be better surely.
2007-01-30 09:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to tell him?
Honey, if he beat you up so bad you lost your last baby, what are you doing anywhere near him?
GET OUT! For your own sake and your unborn baby's sake! GET OUT of there before he kills YOU.
If you don't have family or friends to go to, get to a church or a shelter for help. And then find out how to file a protection order to keep him away from you!
2007-01-30 08:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious, you have to leave him. I know that is easy for me and everyone else to say. We are not in your shoes. But the reality is that you and your unborn child are in danger. You always will be if you continue to be with this same person. Please call the local police and ask them for information on where you can go in your area to be safe, i.e. safehouse, womens shelter, etc. Despite what this person says, they do not love you the way that they say they do. You have to leave. Please do so. Good luck to you.
2007-01-30 08:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by angryman 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go to a woman's shelter. Your relationship doesn't sound very healthy to me. You should NOT be afraid of your partner and he should NOT beat you up. Get a restraining order and get out now!
2007-01-30 08:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋