I treated women like sh.., now i met my dream women, but she wont trust me?

Question

Hi, i am 29 and i used to take advance from women quite hard. Like get them to sleep with you in the first night and then disappear forever. Also make them fall in love with you, but never sleep with them. Also have several womens fight for you. I kind of enjoy it. Also make them pay, so they can stay etc. I was always looking for the borders of how far you can go with women. Since i am a good looking guy, women quite like to fall for it. But now my reputation has run bad. I met this woman and she is the one. But she kind of thinks i am gonna take advantage of her, because she probably has been warned. How can i convince her, that i truly mean it with her and that i am not gonna run this time? I also had a 4 year relationship before and i truly have changed. How can i convince her about my feelings? Are the women from way back trying to get back on me? Or does she simply want me for what i used to be years back?

Answer 1

Karma--maybe she will give you a little of what you gave women for so long.

Answer 2

Actions speak louder than words. So consistent positive actions over time will probably make some changes in her pre-conceived, but probably on-target, notions about you. Also the fact that your so confident you're cocky, is probably not very attractive to her.

No, the women from your past are not trying to get back at you...YOUR OWN POOR BEHAVIOR IS HAUNTING YOU. Karma is a B***h!

If you want to convince her that you won't run this time, then don't run. Stay the course. Be patient with her. Understand that she is EXTREMELY WISE to be SUPER CAUTIOUS with you as you have a bad track record (that you freely admit to have created). When you have made a character change - and truly are a better person - it's not hard to give people the time they need to recognize, realize and believe in the change. I commend you on your desire to be a better man now. Hopefully, this lady will give you a chance - but you've got to earn it. If she doesn't, don't jump back into the same way you were with women before. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Have you ever seen the film, Alfie?
You sound like an Alfie. If the only reason that you like this woman is because of the chase then don't bother but, if what you say is true, then all you can do is love her. Be romantic, never give up, tell her she's beautiful, admit that the way you have been with women is disgusting( it is, if a guy treated me like that, you have no idea how much that would hurt me )and you have never felt like this before.
Good luck! I hope you win her round

Answer 4

This is why you always treat someone like YOU would want to be treated. Your past is coming back on you now. This proves the old saying of "what goes around, comes around". All you can really do now is try and prove to her that you have changed and are now a better person. Give it time. Never take advantage of anyone. Good Luck

Answer 5

Women are really hard to assess and it's good
that you finally meet your"match"!
Once you lose a person's trust it won't be easy.
You have to prove your worth first again and that takes a lot of time and effort.Btw, even you are good-looking,it's not a license to play around with women.Look at David Beckham,
he is always with his wife.Sean Connery(James Bond actor) is married to the same woman for more than 20 yrs!If you are secure and a real man,you don't have to brag about your looks and be tricky with women!There are more factors important that your looks!

Answer 6

You're going to raked over the coals a bit, but if you are consistent,
reliable, and never lie to her, you might have a chance. First and foremost
always let her know where you are. Invite her to meet you for lunch;
take her to meet your parents; include her when you go out with your friends.
Invite her on long walks, take her a rose every now and then. Do something for her that your friends know you've never done for another girl,
like opening doors for her . Good luck!!

Answer 7

Sounds like she is a smart lady. Have you ever heard that you reap what you sew....in other words it often comes back to you what you have done in the past.

It sounds like she has a pretty good idea of who you are or have been....it is true that some guys wise up with maturity...but if she's smart she'll make you prove it. ...and if you really respect her for who she is you'll treat her differently.

Time will tell.

Answer 8

hi,
after what you just spoke about i think that you are getting what you deserve.you can not do the things you have done and not expect to someday come back and bite you, you know where. if she is the one take the blows and hang in there because you are in for a bumpy ride. the grape vine in that town is strong.and you are going to get it with both guns. love is hard enough and for someone to come in and play with someones feeling like you did will take time to mend.

Answer 9

Trust is not given. It is earned. Maybe she has been hurt before and your lousy rep has nothing to do with it. Just have patience and take your time. If she is Ms. Right she's going to be around for a long time. Good luck.

Answer 10

Consider yourself lucky she is interested. Women don't buy into words as much as men think we do. Unless of course they are idiots, then they will believe anything you tell them. But if you are lucky enough to find a smart cookie, then actions must speak louder than words.

If you have really changed, then be accountable for yourself, where you are at all times, who you are with, don't give her reasons to mistrust you and you are set.

Answer 11

~I find the details about this question, questionable. If it is true, I would say YAY! Hope you know what karma is, because you just got a big dose of it.
The best thing to do, is learn from your mistakes and treat women with respect, all women, if you want to have a better MO.~