Like what are the responsibilities of the maid of honor? Could a 7 or 8 year old be one? If not, could she be like an "honorary maid of honor", or something like that? All your answers and advise would be great! Thanks.
2007-01-29 23:54:20 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The Maid of Honor (or matron, in the case of a married woman) plays a very important role in the planning of the wedding. She acts as the bride’s confidante, best friend, listener, therapist, and perhaps at times, as a punching bag.
-Here's a list of the maid of honor's responsibilities:
-Helps to address invitations
--Supervises and organizes all logistics with the other bridesmaids for their wedding apparel
-Holds bridal shower
-Attends all prenuptial parties
-Coordinates purchase of bridesmaids' gift to bride
-Coordinates purchase of bridesmaids' gift to couple
-Assists in wedding day plans and preparation
-Picks-up last minute items for bride
-Handles all last minute logistics for bride
-Keeps bride on schedule and assists her throughout her wedding day
-Assists bride in dressing for the ceremony
-Witnesses wedding license (In Canada it is 2 people over the age of 16, In th USA There is no minimum age for a witness.
-If there is no ring bearer, she will hold the groom's ring until needed
-Holds the bridal bouquet during the ceremony
-Adjusts the bride's veil and train before the processional and the recessional
-Following reception, helps bride to change from wedding gown
-Informs bride's parents when bride and groom are ready to leave
I really don't think that a 7 or 8 year old could handle or do.
The choice is your but that is some big shoes to be filling for a seven or 8 year old if you really want tha person in your wedding
party why not make her a junior bridesmaid?
Having a junior bridesmaid is a fantastic way to include a special girl in your wedding. Some responsibilities of a junior bridesmaid:
Typically between 9 and 14 years old.
-Attend the bridal shower and help clean up and
-Help with any favor making.
-Dress is similar or the same as the bridesmaids.
-Attends ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
-Hands out programs and favors.
-Walks down the aisle in the procession.
-Stands in the receiving line.
If you would prefer to not have a junior bridesmaid but want to include an older child in the wedding, have the child be a reader in the ceremony!
I dunno about where you live but what country you live in can affect what age of people you have you will have to find that out before you make your decision because it may not be legal
But Remeber this day REALLY is one of the most exciting times of your life Cherish and do everything you can to keep the sparks alive!
CONGRATULATIONS AND BEST WISHES
2007-01-30 01:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The maid of Honor should not be a 7 or 8 year old, it is a very important role that takes much responsibility.
An Honorary bides maid means that you will still announce that person as your bridesmaid and they will take part in pre wedding events, but they are not actually in the wedding.
The best option would be a flower girl.
Go to the knot.com, they have a full description of what each person in the wedding is responsible for ( Maid of honor, flower girl, etc)
In the end it is ultimately your decison, what ever you want to do , do it.
Good Luck!
2007-01-30 00:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's 2007. The only "role" she should have is to show up and witness the vows.
Many maid of honors often take on the responsiblity of the shower and/or bachlorette party and in helping the bride in anyway she can, but there should be no "expectations." It doesn't have to be the maid of honor that does those things - anyone can do them for you.
The only duty that usually falls on the MOH is to witness the vows - and a 7 or 8 year couldn't do that. All that would need to happen is the next maid standing there would step up, witness with the young lady, and be the one to sign as a witness.
Why is it that we live in an "anything goes" society - except when it comes to the poor MOH - who gets heaped upon her "responsiblities." It's not her wedding.
Do what works for you!
2007-01-30 02:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically a 7 or 8 year old should not be the Maid of Honor-the Maid of Honor usually signs the marriage certificate as a witness as does the Best Man. However its your wedding you can do whatever you want to as long as an adult can witness the ceremony and sign the papers. The MOH assists the bride with all of her preparations for the wedding, usually holds the bridal shower, assists with gifts and invitations and many other functions.
2007-01-30 00:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
a seven or eight year old should be a flower girl. A maid of honour stands closest to the bride during the wedding and at the reception makes a speech.
2007-01-30 00:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by かわいい愛朱利 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maid of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and creative:
Pre Wedding
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits. Check out our partner, Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses, for great name-brand discount wedding and bridesmaid dresses.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Wedding Day
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.
Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
2007-01-30 02:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was lucky enough to be at a wedding of two rival sisters and the youngest was MOH and it was funny watching the sister hold the train and get stuff during the service let alone all the other chores and gratitudes she preformed
2007-01-30 00:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Patches6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional support, at the altar, she takes your flowers, while you do you vows and rings, she is the one who you love and trust, and are the closet to. You honor her, with being the most important part of the bridle party, besides of course the bride and groom.
2007-01-30 01:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋