We split up after i found out he was chasing someone else. The other person didn't want to know. We'd been together 7 years and everything had been great up until a few months before, but we were trying to work through our bad patch as we both loved each other. I took the break up really badly and just as i was starting to move on, he started to contact me again saying he was missing me but didn't know if he wanted a realtionship with me, so we met up and decided that we would give our relationship another go but take things slowly. He then got cold feet, said he didn't know what he wanted, but didn't want to mess me around so we finished it again. But then he came back the next day saying he did want to be with me but then a few days later changed his mind again. So i told him to leave me alone, but i'm finding it really hard as i think that he's bothered what his family will say if we get back together. He is a bit of a mummys boy. What should i do? Should i just forget about him?
2007-01-29 23:47:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be brave and walk away. it'l get harder before it'l get easier but in the end you'll be glad. i know at the moment all you want to do is be with him but if hes messing you around now the he'll carry on doing it. do it for yourself, walk away and dont have contact with him again. you WILL get over it but it will take time. you'll meet someone else and you'll wonder why you wasted all that time with your ex. you'll find someone who will treat you amazingly, who will never hurt you. no man is worth your tears, and the one who is wont make you cry!! good luck x x
2007-01-30 01:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry W 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Breakups are never easy whether you love the person or not. You have my sympathy. I split with my husband nearly 3 years ago, and I wonder what life would have been like if I had gone home and done what he wanted.
Then I look around at where I am today and tell myself, that I would never have achieved half of what I have if I had gone back.
Lets cut to the chase. He wants you, but he doesn't want you. He wants the sex but not what else comes with it.
You don't need to be waiting around to see if he will finally grow some balls and follow his own heart. You are so much better than that.
The song I chose for my anthem when I left my Husband was "I Will Survive". The song is perfect. Listen to it. I think it will give you the confidence to walk away completely.
Please walk away from this man. You don't deserve to be treated the way you are.
I apologise for my bluntness.
2007-01-29 23:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by pinkladxy 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
does he want you back because no one else wants him? i know this is hard especially after 7 years but you're worth so much more than this, i understand you love him and he has to love you, you cant spend that long together and just switch off your feelings but dont except being second best to anyone. Are there any children involved? I give you my advice of what i would do if it were me, i would give him a second and very final chance and make this perfectly clear to him, you need lots of love and attention from him again and if he cant give you this then i would say its defiantly over. good luck hun, thinking of you xxxx
2007-01-30 00:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by louise 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi I'm going thorougt ter same thing gal move on OK only u Kan stop this he Will always wont u bk coz he walks over u , cut all ties Will hurt him pay him a lesson go out find a new man he Will say to u again in year time not sure what i wont just after u have put all the effort in and he only Putin half in coz if he chasing sum1 else he finks grass is greener on other side good luck I'm still stick in to these words my ex is email and text in i miss u and care but still hasn't said i wont u bk so still don't no after 5 months what he wont's
2007-01-30 00:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
first off you have to stop worrying about what his mother will say and he shouldnt be influenced by what she has to say either.
If you love him - and it sounds like you really do - then maybe you should give in to your emotion and just tell him. There are no guarantees that things will work out between you if you do get back together - but at least you can say you've tried.
you need to meet him - put both your cards on the table - discuss why he chased this other person in the first place - what you both need to do to get the relationship back on track and if you can work it out from there then hopefully all will turn out well.
Good luck
xx
2007-01-29 23:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, c'mon chuck you don't need this. He's really taking the p*ss. The amount of time you've been together is irrelevent, it's the future that matters. Accept that they were great years, but another 7 of his restlessness will make you feel worse. Find someone that wants to be with YOU no matter what his parents think. There are men out there!
2007-01-29 23:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by rach 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't do the split up go back thing as once a man has done it he will do it again and again! And again and again!
You will be in limbo for the duration and getting older and older!
Try your best to move on or tell him that, if you get back, its proper and for keeps!
Don't accept half measures - its a habit which is hard to get out of!
2007-01-29 23:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I say forget about him.
Obviously he's in two minds about the situation... If he really wanted to be with you, he would sort it out with his family (if they have a problem with it).
I think he's hesitant, and to me, that doesn't sound good. How can a relationship work if the other person involved isn't fully into the relationship?
Move on... you'll find someone who wont hesitate to date you!
2007-01-29 23:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anfieldgirl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Move on for your own self-esteem. You will know deep down if he has hurt you too much or not. You deserve better. You may not believe it now, but Ive been through the same thing & now ive found mr right & it's worth being single for a while. Trust yourself & start pampering yourself.
2007-01-30 00:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by asdajohnlover 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Looks like you were an 'ex' before you were actually a partner. And an 'ex' you will always be with this one. Even if you are together.
Open your eyes. Or waste your life.
2007-01-29 23:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jon H 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋