Help me please,about my daughter?

Question

My daughter is 5 years old and she started school in 2006. I have been helping her with all of her colors for a few years now..(of course),but when the teacher askes her what a color is,she always gets it wrong while she comes home and does it correctly for me!! I'm thinking maybe she is just a shy child or something else that I don't know..help

Answer 1

Which colors did you teach your daughter? Did you cover the "less familar" ones as well, such as gray, brown, silver, beige, and gold? Maybe you should ask the teacher which colors your daughter is getting wrong. They may be ones you did not teach her.

Another possibility is that the teacher is showing her colors that are not the *exact shade* she is used to.
I have had countless "arguments" with my kids (and my husband!) about what color a sweater or a pair of pants is, simply because "in between" colors can be interpreted a number of ways. For example, think of the color khaki. Some people will insist it's brown, while others insist it's green.

As for color blindness:
If your daughter knows her numbers, you can test her at http://www.toledo-bend.com/colorblind/Ishihara.html

Here is some information that may help you figure out if she is color blind:
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Color blindness may be a hereditary condition or caused by disease of the optic nerve or retina. Acquired color vision problems only affect the eye with the disease and may become progressively worse over time. Patients with a color vision defect caused by disease usually have trouble discriminating blues and yellows.

Inherited color blindness is most common, affects both eyes, and does not worsen over time. This type is found in about 8% of males and 0.4% of females. These color problems are linked to the X chromosome and are almost always passed from a mother to her son.

Color blindness may be partial (affecting only some colors), or complete (affecting all colors). Complete color blindness is very rare. Those who are completely color blind often have other serious eye problems as well.

The symptoms of color blindness are dependent on several factors, such as whether the problem is congenital, acquired, partial, or complete.
* Difficulty distinguishing reds and greens (most common)
* Difficulty distinguishing blues and greens (less common)

The symptoms of more serious inherited color vision problems and some types acquired problems may include:
* Objects appear as various shades of gray (this occurs with complete color blindness and is very rare)
* Reduced vision
* Nystagmus
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From http://www.stlukeseye.com/Conditions/ColorBlindness.asp

Answer 2

Maybe she feels under pressure (even if the teacher is not meaning to give that impression, sometimes, for a kid, that's how they interpret it)

Or maybe she has a lack of confidence (some children just do - I know I did as a child - I was always scared, I still don't know what of, but I had this terrible fear of 'mucking up' and 'getting it wrong' - even though there was no reason for me to think or feel this way what-so-ever).

I think you have to just love her, support her, talk to her and reassure that she is a wonderful child. I don't know what the home situation is like, and I'm not implying that its bad, but are there things she might be seeing or hearing that may make her worry, stressed and/or scared, talk to her, make it an 'informal' and relaxed chat, maybe over a McDs, or with the both of you cuddled up watching a film and pizza sort of thing (that way she wont be focussing on solely your questions and will feel comfortable, relaxed and under no threat).

Answer 3

Maybe set up a meeting with the three of you and then do the color test. If she is identifying colors for you, maybe there is something about the cards themselves that she uses to identify the colors and not the color. Those same identifying marks wouldn't be on the teacher's cards. Maybe you could use the teacher's cards and the teacher could use your cards and see how your daughter does with identification then. If you have any concerns about color blindness, you should take her to an eye doctor.

Answer 4

perhaps go in and have a meeting with her teacher and yourself and than set another private one up for the three of you...just to talk and get to know each other and show your daughter there's nothing wrong or scary about this new person trying to teach her something her mom is teaching...my niece came home from school once and she said she told her teacher she already had a mom and she didn't need her teachers help...maybe that's it????


good luck

Answer 5

Maybe she gets nervous in the classroom enviroment. Call the teacher and have a meeting. Come up with strategies to encourage her to learn from both in the classroom and at home. Also, she could just be acting up because she is five. It isn't entirely uncommon.

Answer 6

could be shy

could just be stubborn , my daughter was BIG TIME.

Or maybe doesnt like the teacher. Just talk to her and get a feel for what the deal is. My daughter is the same age.

Answer 7

Perhaps she is just intimidated by her teacher. My child is very sensitive and doesn't respond well to people 'in his face'. Sometimes if I pressure him too much, he draws a blank because he is trying to hard to please me. Maybe if you meet with her teacher and ask her/him to be a little more easy going and patient with your daughter, she will gain more confidence in herself. This is also in the best interests of the teacher to have a happy, willing to learn student. Good Luck.

Answer 8

At first, I suspected your child was colorblind, but once you said that she identifies the colors correctly for you, I realized this couldnt be it. MY suggestion is treat her like a "grown up" and ask her directly why she won't "show her teacher what a smart girl she is." Good luck!

Answer 9

I like Erick's suggestion. My thought is that is it may be performance anxiety. If this is the case she may not be able to articulate to you why she has trouble doing it at school. In any case if it is anxiety, the bigger deal is made of it, the harder it will be for her. Since she has no problem at home, the anxiety may be related to school or the teacher or some of her classmates.

Answer 10

I think she may get intimidated when asked, my daughter did something similar they needed to count to 100 without any mistakes, and in the car she did it then when tested she only counted to 19 it is a phase and all you can do is encourage her make her practice. now my daughter is the only one in class that can write to 100 on the first try. Now my problem is trying to get her to write smaller everything is huge letters. I knoe she knows how to write small because she gets one of those diaries and writes real small. I think she does it to annoy me, but I make her do it over.