iam a 17year old guy ..and i really really hate my father ..i just want to kill him .. first he leaves us ..and only sent us money ..and then when he came back .. he found out tht my sister is married and pregent and well he told my sis to get an abortion if u want my money and a place to live ... and then he hit my mom ... wht should i do /?? should i kill him or what
2007-01-29 22:08:25 · 18 answers · asked by why will i gonna tell u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO do not kill him, he wouldnt be worth it you doing prison time. I am so sorry that happened. I lived with an abusive man and that is no way for anyone to live. No one deserves to be hit, physical and mental abuse is wrong. If I were you I would try to go to a counselor soon. There are also many shelters and abuse hotlines you can call to get some answers. You need help for yourself and your mom. The next time he hits your mother also call the police. When I was going through my abuse it was treated like it was a shameful thing yet no one wanted to get involved. Even the police back then didnt like to get involved. But laws have changed and abuse is no longer tolerated. Police are more trained when it comes to domestic abuse. Your father needs to be arrested and charged. Dont wait until it is to late, I have heard of so many stories where the man has beaten his wife to death or near death. Get help today for you and your Mom. No one deserves to be treated that way. There are so many programs available and also help. You and your mom deserve better. You are a good son, I am sure your Mom is very proud of you. Be there for her and be strong for her. I will be saying some prayers for you.
2007-01-29 22:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by helen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woah, now!!!Dont ever ever say you want to kill someone, no matter what they have done to you. Now I understand why you feel like that - I have been through it as well. Your mother and your sister are grown ups and they have the following choices:
1. Your mother and sister could always get a restraining order against him
2. Your mother could always fight for the money in court
3. They can ignore this abuse and just carry on as always just because of the money
4. All of you can ask him to p!ss off out of your life and struggle without the money, but be happier.
Also keep in mind that you only have a few years left for receiving child support from your dad, so either way your family should get use to the idea of not getting anything from him, because in a while he wont have to pay anymore.AND he cant keep it against you and he wont have a reason to cause problems for you anymore.
I know I dont understand your circumstances and I dont know how dependant your family is on this child support, but I suggest you get a restraining order and sue him for the rest.Then he can get out of your life for good and you wont have to go to prison.
Good luck.
2007-01-29 22:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 22 and went through alot of the same stuff. I'd seriously look him straight in the eye and ***** slap him and show him whos boss. Any guy that will hit a girl doesn't have the guts to strike a guy if the guy shows he's not scared. You don't even need to punch him. Just ****** back hand him right across the face and tell him you will kill him if he hits touches your mom again.
2007-01-29 22:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by shadyron5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very Normal. My dad used to beat the hell out of my mom. I hated him and still do even though he has been missing (as in milk carton missing) since 1992. No, don't kill him...report him. Most states have a law that says when an abuser is removed/arrested he must maintain his financial responsibility to the family.
2007-01-29 22:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong, real wrong, for a man to hit a woman thats abuse and should be reported immediately. Second do you hate your father or do you hate his actions. Sounds like you need to take the first step and report it to the authorities then the whole family needs to seek professional help.
2007-01-29 23:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...................... I will tell you this. My ex was very abusive so i know how your mom feels. My son is 15 and hates his dad. Your mom needs to leave him. He wont stop. The last thing you need to do is to attack him. Your mother does not need you in jail. If you are there and he hits her call 911. I do not know how any father could tell his daughter to get an abortion. THATS HIS GRANDBABY if you need someone to listen my yahoo messenger is this name
2007-01-29 23:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal!!! It's freakin' expected. If my dad hit my mom for whatever reason when am around he'll have a piece of my mind. It shows lack of respect and am not having any of that. But i don't know about killing him. I wouldn't want that guilt on my head or his blood on my hands. There are better ways am sure that you can handle this. Let him know that although he is your father you won't have him hitting your mom.
2007-01-29 22:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by nocirpac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u shouldnt kill him he helped give u life u will hate him for awile but he will one day get wat he deserves one day. im a 17 yr old and wen i was in the first grade my dad slapped me, left my family, sent money every once in awile, he told people he wished he never had us kids so that was wen i really hated him and wanted something bad to happen to him. about a year later i found out he was dying and that didnt upset me until the day that he died thats wen i realized i did love him inside but also he got bit by charma wen he did all those things to my family.
2007-01-30 07:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by shy_grl_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your mom you will step up to the plate and get a job. Help her out and for gods sake, don't kill your father. You will go to jail.
2007-01-29 22:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by waxingtheturtle2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is natural to hate him. I'm surprised you didn't hit him already.
Don't kill him. It would break your mom's heart if you went to prison. Tell him that he'll have to go through you before he hits her again. And mean it.
Good luck!
2007-01-29 22:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋