Sibling rivalry?

Question

What tips can ypu give me on my two children constantly fighting I have never seen children like them fight so much.
My son is nearly 8 and my daughter is 51/2

Answer 1

I had the same problem with my children. I found that having them play outside will lose some of that energy. I also started having a family fun night. We have a chart and every Wednesday, whoever didn't get in trouble too much gets to participate. Took a couple weeks for them to get used to, but now there are only a couple whining matches, no more physical or shouting. I have four kids and only the middle 2 acted like this. Trust me though, a reward system for being good helps. It doesn't have to cost anything. We normally play a board game, they get to help cook dinner, even watch a movie and they get to eat snacks in the living room. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 2

Ahhh the joys of parenthood! Sibling rivalry is quite normal but the fighting is really about more than that. As much as possible you should stay out of the fights and encourage them to work things out on their own. They of course, will want you to get involved. especially when one perceives an injustice has been done to them and want you to right it. That's when it becomes difficult because each may feel (s)he is right and will perceive your taking the others side as favoring that one. This is why you should stay out but do encourage them and give them tools to be able to negotiate and work out solutions. Spend some alone time with each one. Set the time aside on a regular basis so each feels they are getting a fair share of your time and attention. During these times you can talk about their fighting, not in a scolding way, but in a way that allows them to vent, and you to help them with effective people skills and conflict resolution skills.

Answer 3

Is it sibling rivalry or do they just fight? Big difference. Rivalry means they are competing against one another for something?Such as a toy or your affection. If that is the case if they fight put the toy away and they have to earn it back. If they fight over your attention then you must give each there own attention separately. Now if they fight all the time that is another problem. Is one ADHD? Do they each have their own room and their own space to go to? I agree with the person who says take them out to play and get that energy out of them.

Answer 4

believe me it's normal. Best thing is to try & stay on top of it by diverting attention in other directions, forcing time apart, making boundries about each others belongings, removing things that they start fighting over (no matter who's it is or what it is). OR Remove yourself from the noise & totally ignore it all as long as there is no risk of serious injury. This can get exhausting at times (as you probably know) but it's the only advice i am able to give. Hope it helps.

Answer 5

Please be careful - sibling rivalry is a vicious circle:
Child a figures out how to antagonise child b - child b acts out - parent reprimands child b (sees the acting out behaviour), and child a gets of free becuase the parent does not realise that child a triggered child b's behaviour. This builds major resentment between the children and the parents.
This can and does cause lifelong harm. Good luck!

Answer 6

nicely as quickly as we've been little me and my sisters fought plenty up till we grew to advance into adults. I somewhat have 2 youthful brothers that there is an age hollow between us and we on no account fought. My 2 sisters inspite of the shown fact that don't get alongside to at present and my brothers stay removed from certainly one of my sisters and that i'm the only one interior the relatives that everybody loves!

Answer 7

nip it in the butt.
my brother and I had "sibling rivalry" now we honestly can't stand eachother.
If they complain about it now, they'll thank you once they realize they have eachother in the future.