this friday my mum is going to meet my boyfriend for the first time. i know it will go ok even tho he is nervous which is expected. i'm meeting his mum on the same day, he's never got on with his mum and when he told her bout me she went off on one and said i'm too young even tho i'm not!he sed it will be fine, but i'm scared. wot shall i say to her to, to make her see that her son makes me really happy? plz help.
2007-01-29 20:36:23 · 20 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be yourself - hopefully she will get to know you and then like you for you. Dont put on any pretence as you are who you are and if she doesnt like that - then tuff!!
Good luck
2007-01-29 20:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Carl N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disarm her when you first meet her by complimenting her on something,
eg:
you have a lovely home
I love your top
that colour really suits you
where do you get your hair/nails done it's really good
(boyfs name) says your cooking is delicious (only if she offers you food)
etc...
Be genuine though, don't say her hair is great when its clearly old fashioned or mention her clothes if she looks a mess.
A genuine compliment will soften her a little and perhaps create a lasting good impression.
Also, how about arriving with a small bunch of flowers (Tesco/Asda £2.99 job) and say this is just a small something for you I hope you like them, a good ice-breaker after you've just been introduced. (He can do the same for your mum, flowers are always appreciated, nothing too fancy though)
Act politely and maturely at all times and she will see you for who you really are. Smile a lot (but don't look insane!) and always say please and thank you these things get noticed.
2007-01-30 11:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy, go and meet her, but don't take any ****. Stick up for yourself and it in a nice way, if you can. If you can't , if I was you and she is being nasty to you, get her on her own and say to her that you love her son, and does she really want to put him through having tp choose between you. See what her reaction his. Watch her eyes and body language, She will come around. Is he an only child. I think maybe he is. Good luck, but you should let you boyfriend know that you are not going to take her ****.
You might get surprise, she might be really nice. Go with your gut instinct. If he has never got on with his mum, he might stick up for you. Please let me know how it turns out.
2007-01-30 05:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she doesn't need to know that her son makes you happy. She doesn't know you and therefore doesn't care about your feelings. Don't go in there feeling intimidated by her and wanting to please/impress her. If you do then she will automatically have the upper hand. Relax, be confident and don't babble. Answer her questions - truthfully & confidently but don't try to engage her in meaningless conversation. Be polite and smile, compliment her shoes (only if they're nice) but don't kiss her *** because then she'll own you. Don't expect the first meeting to go well, it may take several, but stand your ground. Good luck to you.
2007-01-30 05:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile, shake her hand firmly, say how nice it is to meet her, and keep it at that. Don't talk too much. Don't be apologetic - you've done nothing wrong. Be polite, firm and assertive no matter what her behaviour is towards you. Unless she says something rude about you right to your face, pretend that her comment about your age never took place. Even if she says something, under no circumstances lose your cool - be polite and dignified. Before you meet your bf's mum, talk to him and ask him to step in if things get heated - cause if HE tells her off he'll soon be forgiven, but if YOU tell her off your words will be remebered forever, both by her and by her son.
2007-01-30 04:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Psyke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and polite, dont act to fake or try to hard as this will show and you wont look genuine. Talk to her as you would any respectful person, but if she seems a bit mean or like she is quizing you then just smile while you answer the questions dont let her intimidate you as she will always do it. But yea just be yourself and respectful and you will be fine. Good luck xx
2007-01-30 05:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't be too cuddily around his mum...she'll just get pissed! Be really nice with manners and tell her that she lives in a really nice house etc. Make sure you dress apropriately, like not showing off a lot of skin :) Whenever she talks to you, just smile a lot and show that you're really happy around them! Good luck!!!
2007-01-30 04:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be yourself...and ur boyfriend too. I know its an awkward situation to go thru and be pepared to answer alot of questions, I have just gone thru this myself...x
2007-01-30 05:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, don't put on a front,she'll eat you alive. don't worry you may become friends she is just watching out for her boy, moms do that. maybe you should worry about making her see you make her son happy,not the other way
2007-01-30 06:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by janiebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother doesn't like your boyfriend will it change your feelings for him? Well, it won't change his feelings for you even if she doesn't like you... be yourself, relax, and it will be okay.
At the end of the day you'll still have each other, and that's what really matters.
2007-01-30 05:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by What_Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋