what type of email does my exbf that dumped me deserves?

Question

been with him for three years and dumped me three weeks ago. i talked him today he said he's seeing a girl and he's having a blast with her. he would always break up with me and i beg him back. saying i will change and that i'm sorry for messing up. then i thought about it earlier and realized he made mistakes too but he never changed.it was always my fault! he said i was never been there for him and our relationship was horrible. but i started thinking and no i was there for him! should i email him listing all the things and the times i was there for him... which is going to be a long list or should i email him saying " f&^%k off and die"

Answer 1

Dont send him an email at all. It'd make you look too desperate and he'd still be having the last laugh. The best way to get at him is to move on with your life and find someone that really respects you.

Answer 2

lol, just been reading all the replies and, they just about all say the same thing I was going to say when reading the question. The best thing to do is Nothing. If you e-mail him at all, in any way shape or form then it only lets him know that he's got to you in the split.

From managing a couple of chatrooms in my youth, I've spoken with quite a few couples that have split and, when one does try and send any kind of abuse through e-mail / text / telephone calls then the other may well use it as some kind of bragging point / trophy, sort of "hey hey hey, look what kind of havoc and hurt i've caused and, how much she must have loved me, aren't I cool?". Not the right attitude to have from someone but, it happens unfortunately. I'm not saying that everyone is like that but, there's nothing to be gained by sending him any e-mails or trying to contact him. He's obviously bragging to you about his new relationship and doesn't care for what you have to say so, there's no chance of a reconcilliation.

The best thing to do is to push it all the hurt & anger deep down, swallow it, then go crap it out :-D lmao. Then you need to see about getting yourself a nice new blokey, someone that cares about you and you care about. Then, don't try and go out of your way to find your ex but, if you ever bump into him, make sure he knows how happy you are. If you're with your new partner then, make sure you have a good kiss and cuddle in front of the ex. Never know, his "bit of stuff" might have seen him for the rat he is by this time and dumped him in the same way.

And, last point... If he ever does ask you back then, ignore him again. Then he'll realise what he's lost :-)

I really do wish you the very very best of luck for the future

Answer 3

Sally. Don't email him at all. ignore him, pretend like he never existed. This will get to him more that an email.

An email can be deleted or made fun of.

We all make mistakes in relationships that's a fact. The realization is that he has moved on.

My advice to you would be to do the same. You cannot erase the mistakes you both have done, but you can make sure that you do not make the same mistakes again in a new relationship.

Good Luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 4

SERIOUSLY, I speak from experience...no email try not to see him again. Do your own thing and be receptive to other guys. Its a win win. If you find someone you'd rather be with you win in yourself.

If he doesn't hear from you, trust me that is the best punishment, it will drive him crazy. If you contact it will reassure him you care. Also it is mysterious when you don't hear from someone and if he loves you and changes over say the next year or few then that mystery will have him hooked and give you a chance together in the future. And you won't have speant the time in the meantime moping around.

He told you about the girl to make you jealous

He doesn't sound like he treated you well?!

Answer 5

Just forget about him. I know you are hurting and want to reach out and hurt him too. But seriously you are much better than that. From what you say it looks like you have given things your best shot. Well it is his loss, the new girl will see in time and leave him, and he will realise just what he has lost as often people do, but when it is too late. Pull things up for you, start believing in yourself, forget him and move on find someone who will treat you right and you will wonder what the hell you where doing with your ex for all that time!

Good luck

Answer 6

If you really want to say that, then do so, or you could get yourself some dignity and behave with some decorum towards a guy who apparently treats you with such a cavalier and childlike manner.

Any list of your good qualities and his bad qualities as much as you might like to write (and feel justified too) is going to be like water off the ducks back.

So what if he is 'having a blast,'? if you have a mind then you'll know that a blast (like a 'party') can only go on for so long for it to have any meaning ...and it's likely that he would give meaning to the opening of a paper bag.

What's the worth of that to you?

Are you going to have him back ....this time? ...and the time after ....and after?

Best of luck ~ I wish for you.
Sash.

Answer 7

Don't stoop low enough to be called the crazy ex girlfriend.

I know it sounds like it'll make you feel better to tell him off, but it honestly won't do anything.

He's over you. He probably was half way over you when he broke up with you. That's just how it works. When someone breaks up with you, they have already been thinking about it for weeks or months. So they expected it and it didn't hurt them as bad.

I say, get over your anger and focus about moving on. Don't talk to him anymore, you'll only hear more about him and his new girlfriend.

I always did the same thing as you. He would break up with me, I'd beg and tell him how I'd change, and then we'd break up again. I finally saw his true colors and realized all the shitty things he did to me. I had to target my anger towards him to get over him.

Answer 8

Umm,when me an my split i sent her a e-mail, telling her how good she was all that B/S... Anyway 5 months have passed, an i really happy with a new gal im seeing...

I regret sending the e-mail now, B/C she was a real nasty ***** ti me, and i wouldnt give her the satisfaction, of knowing how i felt...

So i would say just dont bother sending anything, spend sum time apart, you never know.. in the mean time go out and have a blast yourself....!!!!

Answer 9

It's so sad when a relationship gets this sour.
I think it should have finished a long time ago but someone kept hanging on in the hope it would get better.
Unfortunately, it was not to be, and there is nothing to prove by blaming each other for its failure.
It's now a closed episode in your life so time for you to close it too.

Answer 10

I think you should just sit back and do nothing. If you write him, you will just push him further away. Besides, sounds like you two need to get on seperately anyways. Don't go begging him back again. Keep your dignity. If he loves you, he'll come back. But, maybe by that time you'll realize that you deserve somebody better. Don't waste your time writing him. Write in your journal, or write a friend to get it off your chest. Or write a letter to him, but DO NOT mail it. It's just to make you blow off some steam.