For the people who have children or want children - Do you want your child to grow up just like yourself or your spouse?Personality,looks, strenghts, weaknesses,etc.
Would you be happy if your child/children grew up just to be like yourself or your spouse, if not please explain.
2007-01-29 20:07:54 · 14 answers · asked by Jade22 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm getting some pretty good answers, but let me say it in a better way -What are the things that you would like your child to "inherit" from your personality. Say for instance when people say 'You are just like your mother'- What could they say that would make you proud in that sense?
2007-01-29 22:02:23 · update #1
This is a great question! We wanted our child to obviously be the best he could be, and of course would develop traits on his own. Somehow, he has managed to get the "best" from each of us, and for that we are grateful. He has stubbornness, which is from both of us! He also has a kind heart, and is empathetic, which he also gets from both of us, though it's shown in different ways. Hoped he'd have his dad's dark looks (eastern European), and somehow he does, but still looks like my side of the family. Still hoping he will get his dad's metabolism, and not mine (his dad is lean and muscular, whilst I am pudgy). Brain-wise, he's highly intelligent - and got his analytical/scientific/mathematical bent from his dad, and his humanities/social sciences leaning from me. That's been the best bonus.
2007-01-30 00:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a Daughter shes only 14 months just now and shes allready like me in so many ways, shes got my bad trates, its the temper I really wish she didnt have my temper or my stubborness but she does. If she was like me when she was older i wouldnt mind so much I just wish thats she wld b older thn 16 when she has her first child. I love her more than anything and i wouldnt change her for the world but its hard to bring a child up on your own when your 16. Her dad however i hope shes not like hes more interested in his car and his beer to take enough of an interest. It annoys me that shes a daddys girl! is that selfish??
2007-01-29 22:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by suzie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want my children to grow up and be their own person, not a clone of me or my spouse. I do hope that they take with them the things I have tried to instill in the morally. For example, to never judge a person by their handicap or color. That there are people in this world with less than them (though we don't have much). I think there is only room for one of me in this world, and I want my children to be individuals.
2007-01-29 20:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by countchocula_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be disappointed if my children grew up just like myself or my partner. I guess i wouldn't wish a few things on them like my insecurity at times or my partners too passive personality but that's really the worst of it. We are both honest, decent, well educated, fit & healthy people who's first priority is our little family & it's security & well being. I think if you can keep your life that simple you are onto a good thing.
2007-01-29 20:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my child grew up to be just like me I would feel like I had failed to raise an individuated human being. It would be alright to have some inborn similarities, but everything else i would want to be purely the genuine child , not what I want the child to be.
2007-01-29 20:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it really depends on how you feel for yourself. If you are proud of yourself then maybe yes but we all have something bad in us that we don't want our children to have. We want them to be perfect in everything. And that too is not possible. Every human being has his own identity and if they are like someone else then it won't be called as their identity. I want my daughter to be herself. I just want to try to teach her the good things I and my spouse have and try to avoid the bad things we have. But for this you have to know what is good and what is bad in you.
As for your additional details I would really feel proud if another person has said something good resembling me in my daughter. I mean if she does something wrong or if she gets angry on things and then someone says "Oh you are just like your mother" then ofcourse its not something to be proud of but if she's good and then someone says something like that I would definately be proud. But that would not be because she resembled me in doing the good. It would be because I was able to teach her what was good in me.
2007-01-29 22:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Shanu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want my child to be who they are, not who I am. Although, I do want my child to have a nice personality with love for others. Which I feel is a good quality in myself. I would want my child to be very smart which is something my husband has a lot of.......smarts.
2007-01-30 13:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, so long they grow up and be happy or satisfy with their life. I always believe that life is nothing but a process of learning to feel, and feeling to learn. Be it a good or bad feeling, the process is more important than its result. Cos everyone of us has the same result - we all will die one day.
2007-01-29 20:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Fish Master 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that every person has its own identity so i think a child should have his or her identity not of his parents,you cannot expect a child to be just like their parents,although some children do set their parents to be thier idol and want to grow up just like them
2007-01-29 20:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by monalisa three 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U always want better for your kids! Unless u are the president or
Donald Trump. So I guess no I wouldn't want them to grow up like either of us. (They are all grown up and they have done better
then us). We are really proud of them too!
2007-01-29 20:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nanniekc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋