my guy friend told me in a round about way that he likes me, i pretended not to understand, cos i only like him as a friend, and i dont want to hurt him or lose him as a friend...but now what do i do, we've always been kinda flirty with each other but in a jokey way (or so i thought). i dont want to lead him on though....any advice??
2007-01-29 20:01:48 · 14 answers · asked by spdy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I assume you're a chick. This is a major problem when straight women are friends with straight guys. If you're only interested in him as a friend then you just have to be honest with him. Definitely don't led him on. But be aware that things will probably change. Friendships rarely last when one person becomes romantically interested and the other does not share that same interest. I have straight male friends but I've never let myself get that close to them for precisely this reason. My closest friends are women and gay men.
2007-01-29 22:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me, too. When I told him the truth ("I just consider you as a friend"), the friendship ended and he started avoiding me.... If this is okay with you then do that. But if you don't want to lose his friendship all of a sudden, you should just tell him that you are not thinking of having a boyfriend right now (just enjoying life, etc) and won't know really when you'll start looking ... (?)
2007-01-30 04:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just can't play around the way you two do---young boys don't play by the same rules---he is noticing you and doing wharever to get your attention---isn't that cute??? You are probably advanced emotionally and being a girl--you perceive all this differently than he does. Simply put--he wants you for a date---you better stop the games and set the guidelines--date or nott dating---tall him in no uncertain terms what he can and cannot do--set your boundries---you won't hurt him--unless he is immature and you can't do any thing about that---if he goes--too bad !!
2007-01-30 04:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his shoes. How would you like to be told/treated if you liked him more than he liked you. Don't be surprised if he decides to stop being as friendly towards you, if might be uncomfortable for him to see you dating and talking about other guys when he likes you. Once he meets someone else things might get better between you two and he may be able to be just friends then.
2007-01-30 04:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from my experiences before(i had encounter this few times)..
i will let the guy friend of mine know that he just mere friend to me..its kinda hard but i had to..and i let my guy friend have thoughts on our friendship..if he thinks that he values the relationship he will respect my decision..and still be friend with..but if he cant..just let go..dont waste your time on someone who couldnt respect your decisions to be a friend for you..a friend should believe and respect you..
let him know that eventhough you dont like him as much as he likes you, he still your friend..
tell him that you like him as someone that you comfortable to be friend with and you cherish your friendship..
be honest..you dont want to hurt him some more right??
and the friendship worth more when you be honest and show your true 'quality'self..
good luck.. :)
2007-01-30 04:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by na_blink182 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it you lost him when you give him the friend spech or the you are nothing and wil be nothing to me speach he will get you back for this slap in the face you want to give him but let me tell you what would be a good way to do this date him and be the the woman you know you can be
2007-01-30 04:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell him lets just be friends, or i don't want to ruin our friendship. you can hit that your not interested or you can spend less time with him, thats the cheap and easy way or just tell him flat out. I've never heard of anyone doing this but it might just work.
2007-01-30 04:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he got stuck in the friend zone......If he's a pushover this would cause this. But your just gonna have to tell him, tell him one day "Your like a brother i never had". That will make sure he dosn't bother you in that way again.
2007-01-30 04:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by clee918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him simply that you don't want to hurt him or lose him as a friend, and that you want to keep things the way they are.
-NmD!
2007-01-30 04:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll destroy your friendship, but honesty is the best policy. Otherwise, he'll be hanging on, 'hoping' you'll 'come around'.
2007-01-30 04:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by ookaninam2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋