hey im in love with a girl, but im scared of tellin her the truth. i have even promise her that ill be her friend 4rever. even she rejected a guy last time when he tell her to be with him. im scared that, that might happn to me. but i really do love her alot, i really care about her. just scared that i may loose her
2007-01-29 19:57:55 · 9 answers · asked by ramen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
congrats,... you r in love... with your own friend.
you ve got her, you know...
it s just one more step to get her as your girlfriend
but, i encourage you to know her.. i mean... really know her
not just in the surface....
hei,... love is blind, right??
y saying that, i really mean that while in love, you cant see her weak point.... everything about her is beautiful...
am i right??
so, it is a lot safer to just be in her side, to know her along the way.... than decide it.
it is really really safer to know her first before telling the truth.
than make her your girlfriend and later you know that your character and personality is a bad match...
just continue your friendship first....
this is what you have to do while being her friend...
In my family we were adviced to know her/he from her/his friends.....
to know how she is relating with others...
to know how she handle problem and pressure
to know how she respect her parents (you can ask her siblings).. we believe that if she cant respect her own parents who raised her and fed and educate her... how would she respect you (who she met just now when she is an adult) later as the head of the family
how she respect her boss
how she is with children
how she is with God
and you... be open with her (but dont tell that you r in love w her)
show that you are a caring person
friendly
dependable
and lovable person
and when she know you... and when she tell you that nobody understand her except you.... than... you can continue to tell her the truth..
It is really safer to know her now than asking her to go out and have relationship w her ...because...
you know...
trauma, memory ( can you erase a memory of your ex GF??)
Do you want to keep a lot of memory of your ex GF while you are with your wife???
See... do you undertand what i mean??
It is better to decide whether you want to have realtionship with or not after knowing her........
than to make her your GF, make a lot of memory with her....
than dump her....
and marry the other girl....
while you cant erase a good memory with your exs!!
and than,... when you decide that you cant continue loving her coz of her personality and her character, you just stay friend...
without having a memory being her boyfriend, right???
My point is....
I want a peaceful life...
sometimes, a memory can help...
but, if it is destroying and disturbing your realtionship with your future wife...... careful!!!
coz, sometime you have sex w your GF, right??
it does create deep memory!! its hard to erase that kind of memory...
You are the boss of your own life...
so, be wise...
think before you leap!!
your decision now can determind your future..
sometime it is better to be a quick decision maker person...
but you know...
sometimes, it is also better if you just sit and think and see and observe and be patient before make a decision that can either ruin or helping your life, making yourself in pain or making your life better.
pls think about my answer
i am a housewife
i had only 1 BF....
and he is now my husband
and i am glad that i made a right decision
he is a responsible husband, trustworthy person, and a good and loving father to his children....
i am content with our marriage...
i did not regret having him as my husband....
and i did not have a memory with my other BF...
and it s so.... healthy!!!!
2007-01-29 20:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by citra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! be a man and desclose your feelings right away, as far as she is ur friend naw, it will be easy to accept u dont u think so?
Being scared wont solve ur problem my dear!
2007-01-29 20:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just take that chance and let her know how you feel. even if she doesn't feel the same way you still know that she will be your friend. thats better then nothing or even not knowing at all.
2007-01-29 20:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dnt tell her ul regret it for the rest of ur life, wat "if" ..... will haunt u ;)
so i suggest tht u tell her, the worse tht cld happen is she not talkin to u, but u could always remind her tht she made u promise to b her friend for ever!!!. n promises r nt to b made to b broken. just tell her hw u feel, gud luck
2007-01-29 20:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by zulu_5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm this is tough.... well you can't keep it in you forever...you'll probably just have to say to her that you wish to be more than friends. Or, just get a friend to ask her if she would ever like you more than a friend....and if she says yes...then you know its safe to tell her, if she says 'no i'd rather be his friend forever'...then maybe you shouldn't tell her..................just yet...............
2007-01-29 20:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then be honest and tell her how you feel about her. if she really cares enough about you as a person she will be very flattered.
2007-01-29 20:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by three_angels_n_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in love...one has to feel scared...to feel alone...and sometimes to be alone....it is better to fail triying.. than to fail not doing anything...
2007-01-29 20:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Arnel I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she holding out waiting on you? sounds like it to me. try baby steps...think you'll be surprised!
2007-01-29 20:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO RISK, NO GAIN ! (Old saying).
2007-01-29 20:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋