so i am the smart, kind, successful, pretty girl. and this really ugly, hopless guy whom i dont like asks me out.
i dont want to seem mean but how can i say no nicely???
2007-01-29 19:57:39 · 21 answers · asked by laura s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say "no thank you, I am not interested". That is all you are required to say. And for the record, you only have to be nice about it once ot twice, if a guy keeps asking you out after you have politely declined then he is harassing you and have every right to tell him to bug off!
2007-01-29 20:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not so hopeless if he is willing to put himself on the line with a woman of your (for sake of argument we will assume it is accurate) self discription. This is probably the same guy who will rise to the top in a corporation or build his own business because he did not let the perceived odds or rejection or failure hold him back when many other more qualified (and better looking?) people do.
I don't know why I am telling you this, but you can always say you just got OUT of a relationship and not yet ready to date.
2007-01-29 20:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, don't be mean, be nice, you don't want to shutter their ego, which is very fragilt anyway, just be straight with him and tell him your not interested. And maybe you could have a drink or a coffee one day when your not so busy. Be gentle. There is never an excuse for being nasty in a situation like that.
2007-01-29 20:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember what goes around comes around. You should treat other with honesty and not be fake with them, if your mean than your mean. Everything you do should come from the heart and be real. Just know that someday you might be in the opposite side of it and try to think of how you would feel. People fail in life more than others by simply not putting others before themselves, and casting judgment down on those they feel are worth less than they are. Your headed down a very pain filled path, best to recognize that now and turn around before it is to late.
-NmD!
2007-01-29 20:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways..............lets review a convo:
Guy: HEy ive been kindda looking at you for a while and well valentines is kindda at the coner....... and well i want to spend it with a special someone.......YOU! i was wondering if you would want to come with me to dinner tommorow??
Girl(you): awww........how sweet..... but i kindda have plans made already with my friends and parents.......mabye some other time.
Now thatz an effective way to say no to a guy...........but u still leave him with hope .... therefore he will try agen!!!
Another way is:
Guy: Hey zup? Me and my boys are having a special clubbing night on valentines day and well we all gotta bring our girls.......... if u don't noe this..... i kindda like you and i was wondering if u could be my date..........we gonna have alotta fun watching movies and stuff......................so what do you say??
Girl(you): SRY DUDE...................i got plans made already.
Now thatz gonna kill him cause u give him no hope to try u agen.................. wen u say u got plans made already ...... he dun noe if itz with another guy or not........but he will think it is with another guy..............so he wont try u agen.
2007-01-30 13:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Yisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have to study, or work overtime. Hiding behind your career always works when faced in this situation; the other person would be plain selfish to insist themselves upon you in spite of your personal goals.
"Sorry [name], but I really want to get an A in this class."
or
"Sorry [name], I have an opportunity at work to get promoted if I put some overtime in for the next few weeks."
2007-01-29 20:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by shanhelp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not go with him? What makes you so special? He might just be a lot of fun. But of course you will never know because you're too busy being a snob!
2007-01-29 20:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say you have a boyfriend. Stop being so high on yourself. If you talk in real life like your post, no guy will want to be with you.
2007-01-29 20:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Wisdom Guru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you're a shallow, empty-headed twit who'd rather date a great-looking guy that will hump you like a crazed weasel and then tell all his friends...and smile when you say it, so he'll know he got off easy!
2007-01-29 20:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"no thank you" ( and he really is a lucky guy , cos who would want to go out with a conceited self opinionated person such as yourself.) He's had a lucky escape.!!
2007-01-29 20:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Daydreamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋