In HS whenever I walked past a group of guys they would say something or throw paper or snigger etc. I thought that people would be more mature now that I am in college. However yesterday I was walking home at 18.30 and there weren't many people around . Two guys were coming towards me ansd I wasn't paying attn. as I was looking at my ipod. 1 of them put of his hand as if looking for me to hi-5 him or something so I just ignored him and then they both started laughing and calling me a sap. I'm sick of this. Also peole walk into me on the street and if the sidewalk is narrow then I'm the one who usually has to move. Anyway I'm ranting but I'm tired of guys treating me like this . They either ignore me or act like this. I 'm not ugly or anything but I am very shy. Why do they treat me like this?
2007-01-29 19:56:12 · 13 answers · asked by actingout 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To whoever was wondering why I didn't hi-5 him back. Why should I? He should keep his hands to himself. Also because I was the only person walking at the time it was more intimidating.
To whoever said to get a makeover. I don't need one. I am the one with the long blonde hair and nice clothes already.
2007-01-30 02:17:14 · update #1
They do it because they can see it bothers you. Sometimes people make fun of others because it takes attention away from them, and sharks love to attack in packs. Loners tend to attract attention this way, think of it this way... when something in nature is seen as 'different' it doesn't last long and gets attacked. It's the same with human beings, they attack what is different.
Get through it with class and ignore them, they have surrendered to lower instinct which does not make them better or smarter... they are just one of the pack, you are unique!
2007-01-29 20:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by What_Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your shyness is telling people to walk on you. I am a former shy person. I was shy throughout childhood and high school. During college I forced myself to snap out of it. And I'm still working on it to this day. I'm 29 years old. But I have greatly improved. Do this:
Maintain eye contact with people and smile at them as you walk past them.
Take a public speaking course specifically geared toward personal relationships.
On the sidewalk, you don't have to move. You just choose to do so. So next time, don't move, unless it's someone elderly of course.
And if somebody makes a snide remark towards you......do your best not to take it too personally. I know it's hard, but trust me, you are not the only person who receives mean remarks from people. Everybody does. You're definitely not alone. So don't take the jerks in this world seriously.
Good luck.
2007-01-30 04:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by shaunaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up for yourself. yeah, what's with the hi 5 stuff these days to strangers. like at a game now, there is always some guy who needs to hi 5 everyone around his seat after a big play for his team. I hate that and just look the other way. I don't have any obligation whatsoever to play his game. i came to watch the game not be mr. hi 5 man. also, what's a "snigger"?
2007-01-30 04:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has been my experience that we teach people how to treat us
they walk into you on the sidewalk because you have moved out of the way in the past and they assume that you will keep moving out of the way from now on. STOP MOVING OUT OF THE WAY!!!! You are a great person you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity DEMAND respect and dignity..Stand you ground and make them go around you (you may get the crap beaten out of you but guess what......you gained some respect for yourself) Stop caring what other people care about you. The only person you have to make happy is.....you! These boys are immature. They are boosting their poor self esteem by putting them down.
Remember.......you rock!!
2007-01-30 04:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by kendall3493 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only do as much as you let them get away with.
Stand up for yourself.
Don't let anyone walk all over you, hunny!
If someone physically *runs* into you on the sidewalk, then you need to stand your ground! Stop stepping aside and letting people ruin your self esteem!
If you keep letting this happen, then you will be the underdog for the rest of your life.
How are you going to go get a job after college if you let people treat you like this?
It's time to start standing up for yourself (cause nobody else is going to do it for you). You need to be strong and independant and don't let anyone be rude to you, hun!
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-30 04:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I have a piity on u. May be u should Go to a self Defense class learn Martial Arts and Beat those guys up.
And ofcourse dont walk too late at night
2007-01-30 04:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lancelot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz you are the problem. You are anti-social so you must pay the price. Why did you not give that guy a high 5, you said it yourself ''you just ignored him''. i dont wanna be ignored, you dont wanna be ignored coz you said at th end ''they either ignore me or act like this. I think you are childish and jus need to grow up and mix more with people
2007-01-30 09:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might see that you are quiet/reserved/shy so it provokes them to do things. I'm not saying you're to blame at all. I think other people need to be nicer and not disturb other people like this.
I think those guys were just trying to be outgoing. I don't think their intentions were bad, but you kinda snubbed them by not looking. So they felt kind of rejected and called you a "sap". I would have high-fived them back, personally, but that's just because I'm more outgoing.
2007-01-30 04:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get 1) a reasonably cute gay man 2) a hot blonde straight female 3) a straight cute male jock
Have them meet you at your place at 1pm on Saturday and help you sort your clothes and throw out what is not needed. Let the make over begin...
2007-01-30 04:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That happened to me too.
They're just trying to be manly, but they havn't a clue!
I just got sick of it and started saying stuff like "watch it royalty coming through" or "I know you're not just gonna walk right into me" or "I don't think so" and keep walking straight as if they are not even there. If they try to walk into you just walk right into them and say "excuse me" or better yet "watch it, damn I know you see me walking here"
2007-01-30 04:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋