2007-01-29 19:50:51 · 23 answers · asked by XoXoTomato 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is defiantly NOT a bad thing .It is probably better now days than b4 ..Although it is a lot harder to do now days and you have to be strong and willing to be pressured and still say No .I think in the long run it will be worth it all to you ..So i guess you would have to answer this one on your own it all comes back to what do you wanna do ..Also if a guy loves you he will understand and wait till the time comes..
2007-01-29 19:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by april_sundae 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no, I don't think it's a bad thing. (I wanted to wait till marriage, but changed my mind... it was too difficult to wait)
It's just important to make sure you and your future spouse have compatible desires and expectations in the bedroom. So definitely discuss these things before getting married.
*edit* I wanted to add, after reading some of the replies, that if you have sex the first time on your honeymoon, just because it's not fantastic physically doesn't mean it's not amazing emotionally. My first time was wonderful (with my bf of 2 years) even though there were a fair amount of complications figuring things out and with pain.
Also, what does it mean to be "bad in bed"? As long as your partner is caring and wants to please you, they can learn whatever techniques you like. Anyone can learn to be a better lover with practice.
2007-01-29 20:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some may think I'm not sharp at all but for a woman to remain a virgin until she marries is something really special and the guy should really respect her for it too.
It isn't easy these days for any woman to remain a virgin but if the woman truly is and wants to remain that way she should keep it to herself or some idiot will make her feel very uncomfortable about it by calling her nasty names but I would only commend her for it because that is the way it should be and on the wedding night she can truly have the best of it with the man of her dreams.
This is my opinion and I think it has value too.
2007-01-29 19:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetie, if you want to wait till you have found the right person or until your married, you DO IT!
DO NOT let anyone bully you or bribe you into giving it up. It is very rare these days to find someon like you and you should be commended for your convictions. You stick to it. A male who is really in love with you he will stick to it too. So that is one way you can sort the scum out. GOOD ON YOU.
2007-01-29 19:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't wait until marriage but ,no, waiting is not a bad thing. It's a preference. I believe that as long as the couple are mature enough in the mind and are mature enough to have SAFE sex, and feels that they are ready for it physically and emotionally, then it's all good. If you feel strongly with remaining a virgin until marriage, don't let anybody break that. Maintain your self respect.
2007-01-29 19:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by shaunaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not bad but you got to think what if you marry someonen who doesn't please you in the bedroom at all or has some sort of sexual disfunction but you all never knew because you both waited? Sex is an important part of marriage no matter what anyone tells you. Now I'm not saying sleep with the guy when you first meet him, but what I am saying is do wait a while like 6 months or so but waiting until marriage might screw yourself
2007-01-29 19:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not going to tell you to be a hoochie, but you really ought to sleep around a little before marriage. I think the verginity thing is noble but inpractical. Here's why I think so:
I thought I was in love with the guy that was my first sexual partner. He was talking like he wanted to marry me, and I kinda thought we were on that path, then we had the sex. MAN! He was just awful, it was a terrible and awkward experience. I thought to myself, Wow! if that had been my wedding night, and I was gonna be stuck with this guy forever....yuck!
You don't have to sleep around with everyone you date, but I would suggest you have a few experiences under your belt before you get married.
2007-01-29 20:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not bad at all. I think more people should hold off on sex. There's too many whores out there these days. Everyone seems to think it's ok for 15 year olds to go out and have sex and for 17 year olds to be pregnant. I think it's incredibly stupid for someone to make fun of someone else for being an 18 year old virgin or whatever... I don't see what's wrong with it.
2007-01-29 19:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by * 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not a bad thing. These days with all the STD's, HIV, Aids, etc., it is best to wait till marriage. I have a 14 yr. old niece who took the "golden vow" to wait till she gets married. Take care.
2007-01-29 19:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its a great thing to do and takes a lot of moral strength and shows character. You should be proud if that's the choice you have made. Stop worrying about what others think of you and hold true to what you believe in and what makes you who you are.
-NmD!
2007-01-29 19:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋