I never felt he wants my friendship.
But he showed his interest in hanging out with me or coming over.
Well, I told him it is early cause we are not close friends.
After 2 weeks he called and asked me if I want to be his girlfriend.
Is it a true feeling?!!!
How I should deal with him he wants to see me this week
2007-01-29 19:40:51 · 14 answers · asked by Rachel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi There! I would go with your gut feeling on him. You seem to want to have a friendship first and that it is too soon to be hanging out and him coming over yet, so go with that. If that is important to you and he does not understand and respect that, then he is not worth it. If he wants to see you this week then maybe do something to get to know him better, even in a group of people if it is more comfortable for you. There is no need to rush things if you do not want to. I think it is great to hear that people like to get know others before jumping into a relationship. Good luck with that!
2007-01-29 19:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... I'm not too sure on what he's feelings are...
But I wouldn't say "yes" just yet...
I believe that a couple should be friends for a while first before actually start dating.
My fiance was on a 6month "probation" period before we actually started going out. He asked me constantly in that time if I would be his girlfriend, but I kept saying no, why rush, lets wait. See? Because I wanted to be sure that what he was feeling and what he wanted was real and not just some stupid crush that he had a hunch about and acted on it! Infactuation is often misunderstood and I didn't want to be a victim of it...
Tell him that you're not yet ready for the "title" - so to speak - meaning "girlfriend" or "boyfriend". Tell him that if the title comes too soon then it just complicates things and makes everything much more arkward. If he understands and agrees, then it's genuine... If not, his a loser and you need to get rid of him asap!
So basically it's up to you... Don't go on what other people tell you though. Do what your instinct tells you because 90% of the time, you're instincts always right! Do not follow your heart as it often leads people in the entirely wrong direction!
Trust I could've put some things in perspective for you...
Good Luck!
2007-01-30 04:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute---you seem to have no interest in this guy--not even close....he wants to see you??? Well what you want is the most important thing---what do you care whar he wants---do you want anything to do with him--NO??? So tell him you aren't interested--tell him you're sorry--but I have to go---bye!! Maybe you are interested--well check him out---does he show respect, is he half way intelligent and courteous?? Does he exhibit maturity, dignity and self confidence?? Is he at least clean?? Boys can be rather immature--but not all of them---if he is not what you desire--tell him to keep moving--it is YOUR CHOICE......got it???YOUR CHOICE. Sounds like you can do better. Good luck.
2007-01-30 03:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep hanging out with him to get to know him better if you are curious about him. Tell him your not ready to be in a relationship that is 'more than friends' at this point if you are uncomfortable. Maybe after you get to know him a little better, you'll decide what you want to do.
2007-01-30 03:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by shaunaxo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as you stick to the very traditonal girlfriend type, I guess there is no harm in giving him a chance but be careful if he wants to do more advanced stuff. In that case, take more time before analysing him before accepting.
2007-01-30 03:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Leos 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should see him but ask him what the deal is. If you feel that you need more time to get to know him then tell him.If his feelings for you is true he will understand and wait.
2007-01-30 03:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you like him and you have things in common then i say go for it but take it slowly and don't move too fast with intamacy! hang out talk get to know each other better! and just see where it all goes! who knows you might wind up falling in love with each other! but you might just want to tell him that yeah you will go out with him and hang out with him but that you do not want to take things too fast and see what he says if he is ok with it then he is serious but if he tries to push you or blows you off then you know he was not serious! good luck!
2007-01-30 03:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just want to be pals,uve got to play hard to get and 2wiks is too soon uve got all the time in the world why rush?
2007-01-30 03:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Hot boobs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy. If you feel unsure keep him at a distance.
Men like it easy anyway. You hold on.
If he is genuine, he will stay.
Otherwise a good bye is better.
2007-01-30 03:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mmmmm 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably is. If you like him, you should go out with him..if you'd rather have his friendship, let him know that!
2007-01-30 03:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋