Question for Christians: Why did God make Male/Female relationships so complicated; was it really necessary?

Answer 1

When we veiw the differences between a male and a female in the right light we find they are not complicated at all. Rather, the female compliments the man and makes him whole.

A key to family success is how a husband views and treats his wife. What the Bible says about the first marriage comes to our aid. The record explains that God used some of Adam’s own body to produce a mate for him. The Bible later expanded on the matter:

“Husbands ought to be LOVING THEIR WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODIES. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation.”

Then, after quoting Genesis 2:24, Paul continued: “Let each one of you individually so love his wife as he does himself.”—Ephesians 5:28-33.

Some men may think that they should be harsh or remote in dealing with their wives. But the Author of marriage says that a husband should deeply love his wife and show that love. To be genuinely happy, a wife needs to feel sure that she is genuinely loved.

A husband’s ‘feeding and cherishing his wife as his own body’ involves his striving to be a good provider. Yet he should not be so occupied with earning a living that he overlooks spending time with his wife and displaying warm interest in her as a person. Further, no sane man, even when irritated, is hateful or brutal to his own body. Hence, what the Bible says rules out a man’s being violently angry with his wife.—Psalm 11:5; 37:8.

The apostle Peter urges husbands to ‘dwell with their wives according to knowledge, assigning them honor as to a weaker vessel.’ (1 Peter 3:7) That “honor” includes accommodating the different tastes that a wife may have. A husband may like sports, but his wife may enjoy window-shopping or watching ballet. Her taste is just as valid as his. Honor allows for such differences.

A wife’s moods, affected by her cycles, may sometimes puzzle a husband, and maybe the wife too. But he can contribute to their mutual happiness by trying to understand and ‘dwell with her according to knowledge.’ Often what she needs most is to be tenderly held close while he converses with her in a loving way.

Since the wife must also do her part if there is to be a happy family, the Creator offers guidance for wives too.

Right after telling husbands to love their wives, the Bible adds: “On the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

If a husband sincerely tries to apply the Bible advice discussed earlier, this most likely will stimulate respect on the part of his wife. Even where a wife may excel in certain ways, or where her husband may fall short, there is still good reason to develop respect. For Paul wrote “Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord, because a HUSBAND is HEAD of his WIFE as the CHRIST also is HEAD of the the MAN.”—Ephesians 5:22, 23.

This is not to say that the husband is to be a know-it-all tyrant in the family. That would be contrary to Christ’s loving, considerate, understanding example. God urges wives to look to their husbands for leadership. On significant family matters husband and wife may consult together, like functioning parts of one body. Yet God holds the husband primarily accountable for the family.—Colossians 3:18, 19.

Experience shows that what the Bible says on this subject is sound. As a wife works to merit her husband’s love and care, and looks to him for guidance in family matters, she will often find that he more willingly shoulders his responsibility and discharges it in a loving way.—Proverbs 31:26-28; Titus 2:4, 5.

Communication is a vital element that is lacking in too many families. Sadly, most married couples don’t listen to each other, and many get into fights as a result. We are bound to have irritations, frustrations and disappointments in life. How can we prevent these from harming our marriage? Good communication helps. Be careful not to take it for granted, only to find that you gradually speak with each other less and less.

Answer 2

People make relationships complicated. Is it really necessary? No. It gets complicated when each person IN a relationship needs to be right. I doubt that any Higher Power causes that to happen!

Answer 3

I am not Christian , but what complications do you find in male / female relationship?

It is extremely soft relationship.
It start first from Mother and Son, Daughter and Father, Sister and Brother, Wife and Husband.

All are full of love. Very easy and simple.

Answer 4

What makes you think God made them that way? we made that mess ourselves, God doesn't like things that are complicated.

Answer 5

WE make them complicated out of sheer selfishness and our sin nature.

That's NOT how God wants it to be, though!

Answer 6

He didn't. We're the ones who make them complicated.

Answer 7

It got complicated only because human soceity developed.

Answer 8

No but the devil sure gets involved and messes up the comunication!