I don't like my boyfriend to check out other girls, this means I don't want him to talk about other girls with his friends or anything like that. Is this unfair?
2007-01-29 19:34:02 · 25 answers · asked by Jessica P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone checks out other people..especially of the opposite sex...if they are not gay...it is human nature no matter how commited the relationship is..try and think of a day you didn't check out another guy..whether it was live or on tv..does that mean you want to break up with your boyfriend and go after that person..of course not..it is the same for him..checking out other girls or talking about them in front of you with is friends is a different story though..it shows disrespect..a glance at them is one thing but to gawk and stare should make you call him on it...hope you two stay happy.
2007-01-29 19:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by B-Rabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have high standards and I like it. Stick to your guns, at the absolute ideal level he shouldn't check out girls or talk about them. Realistically he should try his best not to for you. Your high standards will serve you well- if you are firm but kind about it you will have good relationship/s and a good family all your life. It would however be unfair to hound him for being less than perfect. If he is right for you (and you sound like me so I know what I am saying) and you are in love, it should be no problem to give up checking out other chicks and talking about them unless accidentally slipping. If he can't then he may be a great guy but hes not for you. Make a hurdle to be jumped and then don't be mean (unfair) about the results but I think they reflect the compatibility. And if I were you it would be a prerequisite for being with you. It cuts the pool down considerably, but its the way for you to find the right guy. Its not unfair to walk around with prerequisites. But you can't force people to comply if its not their style. You can change people, but if they're too resistant its not worth it.
2007-01-29 19:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically it's not unfair because your boyfriend being quite childish (or somewhere along the lines) if he's going out checking girls and such.
However, if you and your boyfriend have a strong, loving relationship and such, it's in a way unfair... not literally of course.
2007-01-29 19:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by ShadowX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are gonna do it anyway. They are all like that. Some will lie to your face and say "no baby I wouldn't do that." It's a lie. You just have to get enough confidence in yourself, that if he is gonna stray, he's not worth it. That your better then that. Eventually you'll find a decent, honest one. It might be painful but it's true. You aren't being unfair at all. You want what every female wants. An honest decent man. They aren't out there though. Their brains are programmed differently then womens. Sorry hon. Good luck to you. Work on yourself and the guys won't bug you so much.
2007-01-29 19:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by meighan27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its between a yes and a no. I think its not about fair or not, as its fair if you dont check out other boys and not fair if you check out other boys.
You might want him to think about you and only you, and hearing him talking about other girls made you hurt and insecure. But the more you stop him from doing so, it will make him want it more. Give him the freedom that he wanted if he cheated you or left you for other girl and he's not worthy and move on.
2007-01-29 19:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by Alastair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is absolutely normal but it is somewhat unfair if youre talking about other guys to your girlfriends. In a relationship we carry 50% of the responsibility and should act the way we wanna be treated so only if you are playing by your rules can you expect him to. Maybe you can come to a compromise but ultimately when you cling too tightly to someone youre just pushing them away. Talk to him about it and be serious about it not like youre whining or picking a fight and he will set the record straight. Hear his side too.
2007-01-29 19:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not really being fair. All guys check out girls... it's just something you have to learn to deal with. Especially in a long term relationship.
Obvioulsy he should realize if he does it in front of you there will be hell to pay... and he should never talk about other girls to you, or in front of you... but he will still do it when you're not around. I don't think it's respectful of him to talk about other girls though.
2007-01-29 19:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it is....when u love someone, u shld love him/her for who they are..but of cos u cld tell him what u dislike..and if he doesn't and it meant no harm and still loves u...what's the problem? Don't change a person to what u want him to be..that is wrong. Mind does play tricks sometimes, so control it and think more positively...checking out girls and talking abt them, i don't see any problems in that unless he is a cheater, then that's a different case.
2007-01-29 19:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a realtionship where I was banned from watching T.V so i wouldnt check out other girls.Thats just crazy! You should trust your boyfriend to do what he wants.If he messes around than it obviously wasnt meant to be and youd be better off without him.If hes faithful well,than you probably found "The One". But seriously,trust him.Without that trust your relationship will never be great to its full potential because your always going to have that small demon in your head causing you guys to fight.
2007-01-29 19:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by teenidol_12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just slightly unfair. Instead of investing energy in controlling his contacts with others, talk to him about trust issues. Find confidence.
2007-01-29 19:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋