My father suffered a stroke and is now paralized. My siblings and I decided to place him in a rehabilitation therapy home to live out his life. We visit him. But, all he argues about is his finances.He wants to keep his money, but he looses it or gives it away to people we dont know. He suffers from dimensia. It has been very difficult for me because I have been the one to handle all his life issues since his stroke. Is there anyone out there that has a similar situation? How can I handle my elderly father to get through his life? without me going crazy at the same time?
2007-01-29 19:33:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You might want try and get power of attorney.This will make you responsible for all of his decisions.Or have you consider getting him a private duty nurse?If he has insurance it will cover it,if not apply for medicaid and they will cover up to 4 hrs a day for you including weekends.My mom went through it with my grandad b4 he pass but he was a really humble guy.I know it's hard I'm in the medical field and I work around ppl like that everyday not to mention I'm a nursing student as well trying to finsh up with B.S.N in nursing.Patients is the best key.I know you feel like pulling every strand of hair out your head,lol but you'll be fine good luck.
2007-01-29 19:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most place would of had power of authory drawn up, cause soon he will not be able to handle any of the things he needs to make a decision on. So i would have a social worker come in and talk to you and your family and father, and get something like that sit up , so he is not just giving away his money. You can leave so much money into an account there, that he can get into, and when he runs out of that you can put some more in the account. That is usually how they work it.
2007-01-29 20:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there has been a medical diagnosis to support the appointment of a legal guardian, then the family will need to seek legal advice.
Edit: Find a family support group for yourself. I'm in a similar situation. No one in the family has my grandaunt's confidence, she will not agree to a P.O.A., she's turning more and more fearful. It is heartbreaking to watch this happen to her. It's hard to see the change in her expression when she begins to see us as enemies. It helps to talk to others in similar situations. The caregivers need attention, also.
2007-01-30 01:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by S. B. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately persons with dementia are unable to accept in seeking help for themselves. They may be unaware of certain losses in function.
The only way you can restrict his activities if he poses harm to himself or others (leaving the gas stove on, reckless driving). You may have to put him in an assisted living setting.
Its difficult, but you have to be supportive and non-judgemental, especially if your his primary caretaker.
2007-01-29 19:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by bones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm surprisingly lots interior the comparable boat and experience for you. you basically could desire to do what you would be able to desire to do. there is 4 human beings toddlers interior the family contributors, yet I basically take place to be the single which lives the nearest to my mom and dad. So i'm the single which is caught with the duty of looking after them. one among them lives 1400 miles away. yet another lives 220 miles away. yet another lives 17 miles away. after which there is me a hundred and fifty feet. So that's left to me. extremely that's left to my spouse. i'm additionally disabled so she has to safeguard me and my mom and dad.
2016-12-17 05:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by michelson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋