we are thinking of having a relationship but his ex is pregnant and already she takes me and him time into her and him time. he says he cant stand her and he's just makin sure they get along for the baby meanwhile she's threatin to get an abortion. i really like him though, should i start a relatoinship with him that could possibly result in marriage?
2007-01-29 19:21:11 · 10 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didnt know he had a "baby momma" til after i fell for him. i just turned 18 an he is the first guy i think i love...it really hurts.....
2007-01-29 19:38:38 · update #1
you just turned 18 huh...pretty young to have relationship problems like this. well as some of the others said, if you decide to have a relationship with him it wont be easy. it cant be easy. he has to be there for the baby and help in raising the kid. there would be a number of times when the ex will go see him. they might be constant in your lives. thats a very long time.
however when we love, we tend to get irrational, hoping things will turn out okay if the love is there. but too much problems, i tell you, and the love can fade. its cliche..but youre really too young to be thinking of marriage. you have so many years ahead. who knows if one day you'll end up together, but for now, please wait.
be a friend for as long as you can. dont go one step further in the meantime. itll complicate things more. if you want to help him, dont be the gf.
2007-01-29 22:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is likely that he is telling his "ex" a completely different story if he wants her to keep the baby. Plus, it's never a good idea to s.hit where you eat. My advice would be to steer clear of this guy and find someone stable who has room in his life for a new, drama-free relationship. This guy definitely will not marry you.
2007-01-30 03:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by artemisaodc1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex gf's always got their way of ruining good things. Speak to your guy, if he says he loves you and you love him I do not think anything can come between you two. If she gets an abortion she is just ruining her own life and besides, it seems like she is just threatening you and trying to win the guy back over that.
2007-01-30 03:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EW NO NO NO! Hello do you want to be the next Britney Spears. DON'T get involved with guys that have BABY's mommas!!!
2007-01-30 03:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by duuh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too Much Drama from the start, if you start a relationship with him expect alot of problems
2007-01-30 03:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think it might work then go for it but you have to realize that his #1 prority is going to be that baby and that she will be in his life for at least the next 18 years. and there is the fact that he will have to pay child support too. that being said if you like him go for it!
2007-01-30 03:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u kidding me...were is your dignity and self respect? first...NEVER date co-workers TWO...never date someone who is married engaged or in a relationship. It really surprises me how women chose emotions over rational thinking through before a decison...this guys is trying to get in your panties...he is just telling u what u want to hear. but deep inside his loyalty lies with the woman who is about to bear his seed...his Child. its time to move on.
2007-01-30 03:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by thone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, don't let his ex gf do an abortion. how comes that this will happen to you if he find another girl which is better than you. be vigilant of searching a man.
2007-01-30 03:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds messy. Pick another guy.
2007-01-30 03:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, please dont start any relationship with him.He himself is in a mess.Give some time.
2007-01-30 03:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋