Does he like me or is he just playing?

Question

I met this guy at uni three years ago, and have always liked him, but never had the guts to tell him. A few months ago things changed a little as we somehow started to have 'moments' where we would stare each other straight in the eyes from across the room and smile. I felt like he gave me more attention, but only the rare comment could be interpreted as 'I like you'. Anyway, now on our summer break we hadn't seen each other for about 2 months although we kept in touch through e-mail. When we finally did catch up he acted as a normal friend would, with the only sign of potentially liking me being that he insisted to pay for lunch. I'm a bit confused over whether he really likes me and what I should do. I should also say here that I have never dated before and am therefore incredibly inexperienced in this sort of situation!!!

Answer 1

He sounds shy and you sound shy but thats good I think. If you feel you had moments, then you can take it to the bank that you did. People don't have 'moments' on their own. You're trying to interpret the wrong things. Comments and paying for lunch indicate nothing but the way they are said or done can. Use your judgment on that.

What should you do- you guys have known each other for a long time and he is single right. You like him. You're interested in something more. Therefore its time to show your feelings and put it on the line. BUT: I think you should express your interest carefully and don't make it over the top.

For instance you could say: "Jim, I think I like you or something, is something going on between us?"

And then react to his reaction. He may be scared and say what do you mean, or he might be honest.

Either way after his reaction you go a bit deeper:

After he says "not really" or something, you say "well I really like you....etc etc whatever your feelings are..."

Then you have to be strong. If he likes you this will definitely shock him into action. Hopefully, he will give his feelings after the first step but I gaurantee he will after the second. And even if he says no then- Wait a week and he might call you to say actually he does like you.

Act now. Its been too long. If he isn't keen its a learning experience in dating for you. Be strong. Walk away romantically and find another guy.

I am lets say a guy who women have shown interest in before, and I can tell you that some of them who I might have dated have lost out because I am shy and they haven't been direct enough.

I remember one year in uni this girl flirted with me and was sort of subtly suggestive. I was interested but her game wasn't enough. It went on all year and eventually she got a boyfriend and came up to me and said "why didn't you ever ask me out", and i said "why didn't YOU ever ask me out". She thought I was being a smartass but I was serious. I would have gone on a date no question if she had stopped trying to be cool and just been a bit more direct. You know lets go for a coffee she could have said and grabbed my hand it would have been all over

Answer 2

I assume you are in college. Invite him to some school activity. Ask him to join you for lunch. Ask if he'd like to take in a movie with you. You do not have to wait for the guy to make the first move. After the outing, you can tell him you enjoy his company. You probably shouldn't tell him you've lusted after him for three years. This should be enough for him to get the hint that you are interested in him. If he follows up with asking you out, then you are on your way. If he doesn't, well, move on. I'll bet some other guy is looking your way.

I'm reminded of an old joke: How do you get a guy's attention? Show up naked, bring beer.

Answer 3

Your lack of experience here is not uncommon---millions of young people have lots of these emotional moments of indecision. First of all you seem to fail to realize that there is just so much time for all this confusion when you are in school---school is first and foremost for students---so you can see where spending this much time on an issue is kind of silly. He seems to not be interested in you---should see that by now and the message is clear---he is a student and not going to be available for much of an emotional relationship. Your questions in your mind seem to have taken on a life of their own--it might show very vividly and it is a bit uncomfortable to him and any one else you do this to. Relax and cool it for a while---simply let nature take its course. What will be will be.....you can't make him or anyone else do anything---they and you are responsible for your own actions---all of them. So just be nice, smile, enjoy school and friends---the dating scene will come when it is ready. Be careful, maintain your dignity and self confidence,,,study hard and SMILE

Answer 4

give em time hae you time diffecult to say any thing at this situation coz now a days 99 % is playing and only 1 percent is like or true love it is better to give em time then being disappointed after the date and after he played and left you ....hoep you dont mind but this seems the mirrow true words

Answer 5

He is not showing any signs of being intrested in you.So dont get ideas.Behave like a normal friend.

Answer 6

I think he likes you! He tried to show it to you when he stared at you and smiled but he probably started to think that you didn't think they same way. And now he is trying to get over you but he cant. and he still wants to be your friend!

Answer 7

Just chill out! Let him handle the situation. If he really likes you hell tell you.

Answer 8

hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing... holla back

Answer 9

your a scropio like me, you should already know, that is one of our traits. but I think that he doesn't not like you, but there is nothing that says he is playing you.

Answer 10

It is hard that u never dated!!!!!