Hi, I known this girl for a while now and we really hit it off, i can honestly say i love her and she says the same, but only problem is "she's Taken"..............................it burns me inside having to face that fact.......somedays im very depressed off, somedays im calm and other days im excited n this all derives from how things went when i was with her. She has been acting very different around me lately, like dodging me an not paing me as much attention as before............im discouraged to call her or see her now because i feel she dont want to be bothered...........but i still feels that she like me and i sill like her.............ppl say to move on but as im sure you all know, its not easy......can i have somme advice on this subject please?
2007-01-29 19:01:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she likes you too, she must know that she has to make a decision... if she said she loves you too then she must not be avoiding you but rather talking to you on how you both could be together and how to avoid hurting a lot people... i think this girl is confused... she said things and her actions points to one way: she likes you... but she has a lot of hang ups... the fact that she is in relationship is easy if she knows what she wants.. if she knows she loves you then it's easy, she gets off the relationship and be honest with everybody else so as not to further complicate things and get more heartache in the future... however, she seems like she is not on her way to making any decisions at all.... seems like she is still probably thinking about it and maybe that's why she's avoiding you....
as for what you can do.... i think the only thing you can do is back off for a while and wait.... because there will be nothing into that relationship unless she makes a decision..... and if it takes her long enough to makes that decision..... then you can wait for her... and pray to God because God listens to prayers buddy.... if she's yours... she will be..... love takes a lot of patience ....
One thing ive learned in love is that to you must be strong enough to hold on for all it's worth and strong enough to know when is the right time to let go..
2007-01-29 19:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not knowing your age it is hard to give info aimed at an appropriate age, but as a general rule, the people you talk to are correct in saying to move on. If you are young, it is a lesson in life. If you are more along the lines of 21 or older, you should realize that the actions you are taking and the feelings you have are a bit immature and bordering on an obsession. Millions of people see and desire to be with mates that are presently not available. Maturity takes over and you see that the best course of action is to move on.The range of emotions is probably not uncommon but they are getting a bit old and you should be past them by now. If you two were dating and it is over---then it is OVER...she is dating someone else. You should be dating someone else also. Got to keep moving. You seem to be fooling yourself by thinking or guessing she still has feelings for you--could be you are mistaken or dreaming these things---or she is just being kind to you. Her avoidance of you should be a red flag--you are making her uncomfortable---get a grip pal---move on. In life you will have many many things to get over--start learning how now. Have a nice life.
2007-01-30 03:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u wait for her even if it is an empty hope?
if u can then by all means show her that u love her like give her support and be the shoulder to cry on when she needs it ....simply just be there for her
if u can't then move on and find someone else to love
also fate can be cruel so take that into account cuz ur efforts my go to waste if u put too much in
i think if u really love her u should wait for her... however, after a while , i think testosterone will make u give this up though lol anyhow good luck!!!!
2007-01-30 03:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends who she loves more. If she says she's taken, then maybe she loves the other person more. If she loves you more, then she's an adult who can make a conscoius decision to leave the other person for you. The fact that she's acting strangely and dodging you sends a clear message to you. I know it hurts but time to move on...
2007-01-30 03:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothin' is important, the only important thing is that u love her.
only think for a moment about losin' whole ur life , why? cuz u've lost your lovely girl.
u would not be compelet if u lose her! and it's really important i think.
so go get on with your life and stop actin' like u given up
and be sure that every thing would be verry well!
2007-01-30 03:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by usa_metalsoft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as she is 'taken' unless she is married.
As long as she is single, she can still make the choice or decision of whom she wants to be with.
If she loves you, she is bound to respond to you. Wait and see.
Good Luck
2007-01-30 03:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON !!! SHE HAS !!! THAT IS YOUR SIGN when she is with some one else its time for you to gett over it
2007-01-30 03:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by GEN-GEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u have some work???
y dont u talk about ur carrier... studiessssss
2007-01-30 03:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by maak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋