what do you think..is he cheating or not?

Question

I found a girls phone number in my boyfriends cell phone. I waited a day or two before asking him who she was and why he had her phone number.
He said she was an old friend (one whom we both knew of) The thing is that he knows I dislike this girland for that reason he didnt talk to her. So why is he talking to her now?
He said that his cousin gave her his phone number without asking him and when she did call he saved it.
I do not know how many times they have talked before i found her number.
Now it seems that he is hiding his cellphone by keeping it in his car and not bringing it in the house.I asked him about that and he didn't say anything.
does that seem wrong to anyone else besides me?
when i did question him about the # we had a big argument. in which he turned it around and accused me of cheating.
I dont see how i could do that when i rarely leave the house as much as he does.
(i stay home to take care of our child)
any suggestions would help.

He hasnt cheated to my knowledge before and he always says that he is not like that. The only long relationship he's had is with me we've been together 5+ years. And he was only with 1 other girl before me.

Answer 1

It's my feeling that nothing should be hidden or not up for discussion when you have been with someone for that long. There are instances where monogamous men hide things from jealous women to avoid conflict which is still not a good thing. I think your relationship might need to be evaluated and you need to have a heart to heart. Lay it on the line..."I am uncomfortable with this because....and I want to know why you have hidden it and avoid talking about it." But going into it you need to be prepared to do what's best for you and your child, if he isn't cooperative or doesn't give you the answer you hope for. I think an ultimatum is in order because you have a child together and you want whats best for the child. I would be pissed and hurt and I know those are hard feelings to deal with but my son and my heart would be my priorities in this situation and I wouldn't stand for it. I am not normally a strong-willed person but I would become one in this circumstance. Good luck.

Answer 2

It's definitely not a good sign that he's arguing about it and then trying to accuse you by turning the table. If your boyfriend loved you and was trustworthy he wouldn't get mad at you. Instead he'd reassure you that your his number one babe and that he'd never do that to you. If I were you, I would have called the girl. Who cares if he gets mad? You have the right since you're his girlfriend. If he's hiding his phone, that's a major red flag. If he starts telling you his phone was off or not charged, he left it in the car or crap like that, it's not good. Look at his outgoing calls or read his text messages. In the end though if you gotta do all this, you gotta ask yourself i it's really worth it. This guy sounds like a punk, he's not treating you with the respect you deserve. Find a real man who will be honest, give you the attention you need as a woman and put you first, not some lame broad that you don't like. What he's basically doing is putting her in front of you. Don't stand for it, show him that you're too good to be stepped on.

Answer 3

Hi Hon - u have every right to be suspicious - esp the fact that you B / friend seems to leave his phone in the car ?

Try this - get a girl-friend of yours to call your B/friend and hit on Him on the phone - say things like I love you so much
i wish to meet you , and have your girlfriend set up a date
preferably at some hotel - and then u and your girlfriend can show up - if your B/friend makes plans to meet with some one he has never met before >>> then girl its time to dump him
what is going on right now is not healthy for you - do something abt it soon - before things turn really bitter - You must find the truth -
BTW - why dont you like the girl u are talking abt ? perhaps if u accepted to include her as a friend u could and would find the truth sooner ?? actions speak louder than words which actions would be right there in front of you to see? whatever the situation , just remember
keep your self respect , i mean if u have to let him go - than so be it even tho it may hurt - i wish u well hon - take care

Answer 4

I would certainly be suspicious under the circumstances maybe you should arrange a surprise meeting together to get to the truth provided that you really want to know the truth. There are some definite red flags here 1 he saved the # Why? 2 He got upset that you questioned him about it and trid to shift the blame to you 3 He is refusing to address the situation again. Ask the cousin is another possibility Good luck

Answer 5

Wow, you're in trouble if you have a child with this guy and he has no commitment to you (i.e., he didn't marry you). He's free because you didn't marry him first, although that might not have stopped him from cheating.

Cheaters usually accuse the other person of cheating. So, yes, I think there's something there. If it hasn't started, it may well soon.

I'd get counseling.

Answer 6

Right now its all speculation.
I would sit down and talk with him but be sincere and don't start off accusing him. Making accusations can push someone you love away from you.

Try to sit down with a priest or minister.

Good luck

Answer 7

look
i have the same problem :(
but i haven't baby yet i just have the feeling first i talked to him allot
and he deny one day his mail was opened and he wasn't front of it
i was cleaning our room suddenly yahoo chat box from his x girl
telling him to stop mailing her and she don't wanna him and soooo on i feel that my heart is going to shatter i called him to come noooow and i face up him with what i found he decide to leave home first then after along argument he tell me that he love me
and that was from along time huh he think that 2 month is long time am still crashing but i love him really and i will never give her the chance to take my love from me
face her don't let her take him from u he is Ur love isn't he??
believe me don't let her try to find out what is wrong with u ?? so he do that

Answer 8

yeah he cheating I'm sure he is not gonna come out clear and say. he hiding his phone, you found a number in his pants what more do you need a relationship is base on trust

Answer 9

u need to call her your self...be nice about, but confrontation is always good. meet up with her if you want. even if u hate her, just do it. be the bigger person. it will make the problem go away.


or if u cant....get a hold of his phone and send her text messages pretending to be him and see whats up.

Answer 10

having a phone number does not suggest cheating.

dont jump on little things like this. what you should be looking for is traces of perfume on his clothing, whether he has lip stick marks anywhere, if he's been getting home later than usual, if he smells like sex, ect.