ok heres my problem. i'm 19 and attracted to older guys or at least intelligent guys but i'm not very smart myself. so basically i'm attracted to guys i don't have a chance with. so in the meantime i wanna learn how to settle for..idiots. but i really don't know how i could deal with that.. any girls have a problem like this? or do you all think i should just not date?
2007-01-29 18:40:38 · 19 answers · asked by ♥♥♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't settle! UGH! I dated a couple of incredibly gorgeous himbos. I was never attracted to them the way I am to my man now, who's both incredibly cute and insanely intelligent. Listening to my man talk is all it takes to start my motor. I'm glad I turned down all the average guys who gave it a shot with me before I met him. I just wasn't feeling it with those guys. You'll never really be happy with someone you cannot connect with mentally. It's just animal lust at that point, and while that's a dandy good time, unless it is supported with genuine apprecation for eachother and a deep respect for your mate, it'll fade and leave nothing of interest behind to bond you.
2007-01-29 18:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by tiny_dog10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not smart really then how can you type a paragraph up? That takes some intelligence and ever heard of TLC the Learning Chanel? Watch it and learn and maybe you should browse the internet for useless facts and inquire about interesting things so that you do have knowledge. That is how I learnt everything I know school is crap on a stick for learning, but if you teach your self you will see how smart you can become in no time.
AND DONT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN WHAT YOU DESERVE AND YOU REALLLLLY DO NOT NEED TO SETTLE FOR STUPID GUYS CAUSE THAT WILL NEVER MAKE YOU SMART YOU WILL ONLY GO DOWNHILLS WITH A SMART GUY ATLEAST YOU WILL LEARN SOMETHING AND SO ON AND SO FORTH. IF YOU SETTLE FOR STUPID THEN YOU WILL NEVER BE BETTER IN LIFE.
2007-01-30 02:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by TOokieTook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no benefits to putting yourself out there, or if you're going to just fool around with guys who you aren't even attracted to, then there's no point in even trying. That would purely be a waste of time, unless you're desperate to have some kind of dating experience, which is best when you actually date people you like, are interested in, and appreciate. Don't ever feel as if you're stupid, and don't feel as if that's the only thing that's holding you back to dating a great guy. If you're attracted to intelligent and older men, then don't all of a sudden change on your own view. It would do you no good. If you really want something, pursue it the best you can.
2007-01-30 02:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by yangyi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing about you is that you have recognized at a young age what it takes some women years to realize. That we need to work on ourselves if we want to get the man we really want. Start by realizing that self-improvement should be for yourself first though NEVER first for a man. If you do see qualities that you are falling short on, start working on them right now that you're young and have a good head start. In the meantime, don't take the stupid guys seriously. And if you're recognizing their stupidity, you're probably lowering your standards a bit much. Grow as a person and try to find men that are equal to you until you feel comfortable enough to step up and upgrade the men you date.
2007-01-30 03:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Rock, Paper, Scissors 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad had 50+ IQ points on my mom. He was a genius, she wasn't. He said he had dated all the ambitious New York women, but he liked my mom because she never put him down.
If you want smart guys, hang out near them. Be the receptionist at the computer firm. Instead of the stupid t-shirts that girls wear, like "Juicy" wear one that says, "I like smart men, the smarter the better." Believe me, guys will do whatever it takes to impress you. Then be easy-going and kind, and a good listener, and that's it. It helps, too, if you keep up with the nightly news and read a good newspaper, so you do have things to talk about other than gossip, but that's just a plus.
2007-01-30 02:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T. Never settle for less than what you deserve. If you like smart guys, go for it. I recommend you start reading and cultivating yourself in order to become more appealing to the smarter guys. Don't be too hard on yourself, I'm pretty sure you're smarter than you think. Give yourself some credit and follow your heart. Don't settle for something you don't want.
Hope you find what you want and deserve. Best of luck.
2007-01-30 02:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by OM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider settling for a stupid guy and what makes you think you dont have a chance intelligent guys ? You dont have to be a genius to relate to one. If they are as intelligent as you say they are they will be smart enough to not let a sweet sincere girl likeyou get away. : )
2007-01-30 03:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by gr_elvis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after selling yourself short of course no smart guy would want you. You think you're not smart so chances are so does everyone else, smart older men want women who are confident in thermselves, which you are not, so gain that confidence and then try again, and why would you want to settle for a stupid guy I know a lot of smart guys that date stupid chicks....
2007-01-30 02:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are 19 it is quite possible for a girl at your age to be interested in quite more mature than your age group. Guys in your age group do not tend to treat a girl - lady like.
But a girl at 19 is not the same (person) as when she is 30.
Live it up be pampered.
2007-01-30 02:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by muttonvindaloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k. i think that if you have to settle for stupid guys until you can find a smarter guy go ahead and do it!!! Just make sure that the guy you end up choosing isn't to stupid but not as smart as you so that you can build some confidence for the next guy. good luck
2007-01-30 02:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋