what should i do if i really need to talk to someone only i'm afraid to say anything?

Question

and i mean really afraid to say anything, and not just about important things, like if someone just says hi to me i can barely make myself answer. and plus i'm not even sure what it is i need to talk about, i just feel completely alone even though the only reason for that is that i won't talk to anyone so i cant make friends, and i don't know. and i want to cut myself which i haven't done in a week but i don't even know why i want to.

Answer 1

Well guess what here i am again. It sounds like to me that you also have a really bad case of self esteem and you need to work on that really badly. I did not talk to therapist or anyone for a huge part of my life, so you are not alone there. Quit often we don't really understand why we are the way we are at the time, or why we can not be as out going as some of the others that we see. Well it is call self esteem, somewhere along the line, someone has really put you down, and put you down to the point that you do not like yourself , let along love yourself, and you have no self confidence i would say. So again, that will lead us back to you going and getting therapy, i have not ever told you that any of this was going to be easy, cause i will be one of the first people to tell you that it is not easy. The ones that make it look easy is the ones that are clowning around about what is going on in their life, and that is called masking. You also mask too, but in a different way. You are not going to get any better if you do not enter some kind of therapy. You proably will not talk at all first, maybe not even for years, unless something is said that you just have to say something about it, then you will shut up again, cause you were not aware that you did that til you look around and everyone is looking at you. But is does get better, but it is a lot of hard work, so since you are so young, and you know that you have a problem then why not go in and get an appointment, and see how it goes, you know it can't hurt, anymore then you are hurting now. So give it a try, and try not to give up on it, cause it is well worth it, when you make that brake through, and things just keep getting better and better, sure you are going to slide back sometimes, everyone does. But you keep pushing ahead and you will find one day that it was well worth it, even though you did not think it could be done. You need to start replaceing that negitive thinking of yours with positive thinking too, that is another part of it. So please once again go and get the help that you really need and desevre.

Answer 2

Hi. I saw this question and decided not to answer because I don't understand being afraid to speak. I've never been in that exact situation.
Then I saw your other question and realised it was the same person.

I'm sorry I can't help you but it's a hard question.
I don't really understand how you can be living life though if you don't talk to anyone. Do you go out? If you need to get something out the only thing I can say is to write it.

What's going through your mind when someone talks to you? Are you afraid of being judged?
Of saying something wrong? Not being worthy? Intimidated?
Or is it physical? Does your body feel weird, like is your stomach dodgy, are you sweating etc?
Think why are you afraid to talk, when did this thing start? Really there's not enough space for information in the question box to get any sort of decent answer out of it.
My answers are always full of questions in the mental health section.

Answer 3

I'm no expert in this field and my problems are similar but nowhere near as extreme but you may have Social Phobia or something similar. Really you should see a doctor to see a shrink(you gotta generally see one to get to see shrink) but if you can't even talk to anyone that would obviously be very difficult. Do you talk to anyone, a family member maybe? If so then you could go with them and they could do the talking for you. Then maybe even go with you to see a shrink until you can say at least some things. The other option is to write things but the problem with talking to people might also affect your writing things to them, I'm really not sure. Either way getting professional help and a diagnosis will most likely greatly help you and also to build your self esteem.

Answer 4

Im not a therapist, but Ive been in a similar situation. You gotta realize that the only one that knows every single thing about you is YOU. Stop for a minute and think. Get to the core. Go back in your mind to when you weren't like this. What happened? When I'm confronted with stress and anxiety, I always stop myself and "sort-out" my problems in my mind. Throw out the petty, insignificant and in-consequential, and work on the more important problems. You can even write it down on paper, that helps too. I know it sounds cliche, but you really can get happy in the same pants you got sad in. You've got a lot to offer to the world or you wouldnt be here, right. Show it.

Answer 5

I know today most young people donot believe in God or prayer but as a young lady in my 20's i believe prayer heals all wounds & the best talk you can have is with God, Ask for help with sincerity & if you believe with all your heart your life will slowly come right. Think about other people that are in a worst off situation than you & be grateful for some of the positive things you have in your life. Draw strength from your good experiences & let it over shadow the bad. Remember time heals all wounds , what looks bad today may turn out to be ok tommorow. Never give up hope on yourself because you worth so much more. Everything takes time to come right & in time things will seem brighter. Always have faith.

Answer 6

I suffer from bipolar and major depressive disorder as well as OCD, social anxiety and generalized anxiety.
Any time you need to talk look me up.
last_cav1971 on messenger

Mark

Answer 7

im sorry about your situation, do you have one friend you can talk to? if you dont you can email me. dotn cut though--ive been through it too, its really not worth it.