Why is this world so fixated on looks? I don't believe in god but I feel like I'm being punished by life. Maybe I deserve to be. I'm not the greatest person in the world but I can't do anything anymore because I'm afraid to go outside. People will judge me! I just want to stay in bed and cry all day. Why do I have to be ugly?! Why do I deserve this?! I'm going to be a virgin forever because nobody even wants to be seen with me! I'm stuck like this forever and it pains me everyday. I can't deal with anymore. I don't even want to live anymore because everyday is pain for me! It's eating me inside like cancer and one day I feel like I'm just going to crack!! I can't deal with it, everyone treats me like a disease, and honestly, my personality is becoming like one because of how I am treated... WHAT CAN I DO!?
2007-01-29 18:19:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I already see a therapist, but I'm afriad what will happen to me, (If they put me in a sanitarium again), if I tell...
what to do?
2007-01-29 18:20:34 · update #1
Thank you for stating the obvious, of course it is depression.
2007-01-29 18:43:37 · update #2
Find a purpose in your life. Maybe work in a burn ward, or learn physical therapy and help amputees. Not only will it put things in perspective and get your mind off how you look, but it will give you something to do in which the special people who *can* see past surface appearance can see the true beauty of your soul. That's assuming you have a truly beautiful soul, and not just a wounded one. Helping other people will be a great way to make sure you do.
There are worse things than being judged, even worse things than dying a virgin (although really--not everyone who falls in love or even marries is at all attractive).
Stick with the therapy. Try to be as honest as possible. Try to rise above the fear. It sounds like you're being driven by a lot of fear, right now.
2007-01-29 18:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by Vaughn 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel that way, but as soon as I started looking at the world through my own eyes and not someone elses I started to feel better and more in control. You should realize everyone can become that stupid standard of beauty - working out, the right clothes, the right makeup, plastic surgery - but not everyone gets to be a good person inside. You should feel lucky that you are and also if you are still young - that is something that is very precious and should not be wasted feeling depressed, that will go away over time, so try to make the most of it. Start volunteering at a senior home or womens shelter and you'll see how lucky you are to be a part of this world.
2007-02-02 16:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha sorry to tell you this but yes
People WILL judge you its a fact of life
you should realize that it doesnt matter what others think about your looks .
what matters is what others See in you Your Character and personality is the key .
your just being negative !
ive seen people with half thier face burnt of and their handling it more than you are .
i dont know how you look but from what i see here its not your looks that you should worry about its You and how you deal with them that is your problem .
You must be strong and you must understand that you might not be as ugly as you think you are.
ive seen some that talk the way you do and they look better than me and i honestly don't understand what the big deal is or why they make it as such .
believe it or not there are people out there that Dont judge people by their looks .
i hope you understand this and realize YOU are your problem no one is actively seeking you out to make you miserable accept yourself .
take control of your personality and tell it to shove it and have a great life
PS:i am 22 and i am a virgin that is because In my religion you can only have sex with your spouse . and i am waiting till i get married to do so .
its not a bad thing to be a virgin yknow =]
2007-01-30 02:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do you keep looking at what others do and have, it is your envy that is eating you up. If you want to be judged, go and do volunteer work with the homeless any less fortunate group there are so many people that need you help , and all you want to do is stay in bed and cry, here is a problem looking for a solution that has a problem
2007-01-30 02:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If u say u don't believe in God that means u don't believe in urself, well I don't know if what I want to say here will help anyway I believe in God and I believe God has a way of controling and using those things that seems stupid to teach the wise. My friend whatever u u want to call it but in my belief there exist a supreme being that controls the universe and things in it and that being leaves in u and funny enough He has given u power to control ur environment and the more u are far from it the more u seem to be useless. well to answer ur question, sit try to quiet ur mind I know its not easy but it can be done, speak to He that is in u, He has always see u as His own/son. I believe u earthly father cares about u even if he doesn't God cares and is waiting for u to talk to HIM.
2007-01-30 04:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by jus wanna know 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's called depression! In a sanitarium all they'll do is keep you quiet, "drugged up." A sanitarium does you absolutely no good. Try finding hobbies, or new interests. You don't like to go anywhere, well find things that you can do inside. Paint, draw, write, stuff like that. I have found that it is great therapy.
2007-01-30 02:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by calichicka852003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the thing to do is to get out, maybe do some voluteer work in your local library of animal shelter. I do think it's sad that we value someone so much by their looks. I have always tried to see beyond that. I can remember one girl that was just so beautiful that I liked. After I got to know I realized it wasn't just her looks but that she had such a kind heart and that's what drew me to her.
2007-01-31 19:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need? 2 things....some Wellbutrin and some Plastic Surgery ASAP, I dont give a crap who is against it, cause till you walked in this
chickies shoes you know NOTHING about her (i assume you are a female)and if there are two things that "WORK' for a problem such as this, it is the two i listed, Anti-depressents and going under the knife, no amount of counseling will change how you "feel" but change how you look and you will change how you feel, PROMISE!
2007-01-30 05:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The people who judge you by your appearance aren't the people you want as your friends anyhow. I know it's hard, I was pretty insecure in high school too, although never that bad... but I did get over it. Be yourself, hold your head high and you'll find your way!
2007-01-30 15:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don’t be depressed. It will only ruin your life. Try to be
calm and talk to a friend. YOU might think of yourself as ugly, but
maybe other people don’t. Don’t you think that you are taking
things the wrong way? Try to find good qualities about yourself
and state them to yourself daily. Chances are, you might think
that those people are insulting you but they also might not!
Believe in yourself!
2007-01-30 07:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by kareuhh_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋