long story short,i had this best friend of mine for about 9 years,we became friends in the 6th grade,and ended the friendship as a sophmore in college,like 1 week ago.anyway 9th grade i spilled my guts, told her how i felt about her,i was sincere,i really loved her. but she said no,in a nice way.she jumped from boyfriend to bf, one jerk after another, they hit her, emotionally abandoned her, and only hurt her.i loved her so much and wanted her to be my world. i was her best friend so i got to bring her roses,and take her to movies and dinner,and spend time with her without having to make up excuses as to why.but she could never see how much i wanted her..she broke my heart,it hurt alot and it still does.i just wanted a chance to make her happy,because i can tell it's not a feeling she's used to.i brought up the idea occasionaly as the friendship went on.but still,no.i think mentally,i'm emotionally bankrupt,like i just give up,i believe i wasn't meant to be happy,i did my best & failed
2007-01-29 18:18:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you base your value and all of your love just one on this one young woman and you are sacrificing your well-being for her-because even though she had been hurt by all those useless boyfriends, in a way she was hurting you because she WASN'T with you and was choosing other men! You focused so much on her instead of focusing more on yourself and that is why you feel so emotionally drained... it's a very painful experience, right now I am going through something similar to what you are going through but I understand- you don't feel appreciate because you gave so much to that one person and you seem to also be very obsessed with her instead of her seeing what she is really missing out on. Just remember that people (even herself) can't choose who they love, but they can choose what to DO about it.
2007-01-29 18:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, life will get better. I know it must suck that she didnt agree to love you the same as you love her. Its a beautiful thing that you love her, love is special and doesnt come very often, but she must be going through a rough patch and picking the wrong guys. She will learn soon. She obviously loves you as her best friend, and maybe thats how she wants to keep you both. Respect her for that be her best friend but find someone who is the same as you. Your definatly meant to be on earth to be happy so go make it happen we all only live once. Keep you chin up tiger. Love Nat555
2007-01-29 18:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound rude but it sounds kinda psycho to me that you are googling over this girl who isnt intrested in you and always thinking on how you can make her happy and tryin to be her savior. forget about her. she is obviosly not intersetred its psycho to hold on to the fantasy u need to move on to someone who appreciaes u and wants to be wit u. sorry if psycho is harsh but u need to hear the truth.**** i re read this and it sounds harsh i dont thnk yur psycho i just think the way u been pining ovr this chick is kinda obsesive and u can do better . hope i didnt hurt ur feelins !!! good luck to you !
2007-01-29 18:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a feeling she's used to. ---some girls don't feel comfortable with guys pampering them and overly focusing on them and if your not her type it only makes it worse. Maybe you tried too hard, some girls don't like that and it makes them feel uncomfortable.
I believe i wasn't meant to be happy ---You can't put all your hope in one person to make you happy. That in itself could make her feel uncomfortable.
2007-01-29 18:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her,, then i suggest you not to give up on her.. coz i know, in no time she'll realize that nobody in this world could ever love her the way you do..
just be patient..
2007-01-29 18:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by pink_iza 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋