a friend of mine ask me why i was still up one night & i told him because my daughter was sick & usually my husband is up with me when our daughter is sick most of the time unless he has to work and then i keep it to where he can try to get him sleep since im a stay at home mom because he works long hours. anyways my friends seem like with his kids his wife did all the work when his kids is sick i guess that why they are not together anymore plus he lazy and cant keep a job.
2007-01-29 18:15:54 · 16 answers · asked by me 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am up right now because of a sick little lady here... and my husband is asleep.... he always tells me if I need his help to just wake him... but I am an at home mom.. whereas he has to be up at four... works until around four-five and at times not home for another hour or two.... I could go wake him... he would not mind... but I would not be able to sleep anyway... worrying and trying to make sure she was okay.... so no sense in us both losing sleep... besides.. my husband drives for a living? I don't know about you... but I would not want a sleepy head father out there on the road while I take my children to or from school?! it just makes more sense to let him sleep... if I worked out of the house still (and could not nap with the little ones?! ;) I might need some help.... but that would be the only reason...... we each have our roles in a family.. in order for a family to thrive, we all have to pull our share... work together....
2007-01-29 18:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both my baby's are sick right now 6 and 16 months, my husband is pretty good we try to take turns but our schedules are so crazy I work nights so i tend to be the one losing the most sleep but what are ya gonna do. I feel a relationship should be 50/50. If I was a stay at home mom and he did all the working it might be a little different but being an at home mom is a job all in its own everyone needs a break.
2007-01-29 18:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dawnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we both sit up with our sick children. Sometimes we stay up together if it is something really bad (like it might require a run to the ER or something), and sometimes we take shifts staying up. A lot of times we will put the child in bed with us and just dose on and off all night.
My hubby is awesome! A lot of my friends have husbands who will not help out at night because they have to work the next day. My husband feels like taking care of the kids is a joint effort, regardless of who has to work. After all, doing the housework is my "job" but the children are something that we share. And why not? He did half the work in making them!
2007-01-29 18:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was 2 months old she had bronchitis and i was suffering badly from post natal depression it was my then partner who done just about everything at first but then the time came that he had to go back to work and i was left to cope on my own which i couldnt and he gave up his job for our daughter and for me. My daughter is over a year old now and hes back at work although were no longer together he still sees our daughter when he feels like it. Im angry at him now because he doesnt spend enough time with her but i still thank him for helping in the first few months without him i wouldnt have been able to do it. I think the father has to play just as big a role in the childs life as the mother does, even if he works he should still play his part and if he does work during the day then he should split nights with you so that you feel refreshed come morning and your able to put your full attention on baby. Oh and for the sleeping part my mum still doesnt sleep if im unwell lol
2007-01-29 22:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by suzie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't sleep well when my kids are sick. It has to do with the fact that they have both suffered croup and it can cause breathing problems. That always worries me. So, I tend to get overly worried no matter why they are sick. My husband always helps out when they are sick. When they have had croup he has held with the steam baths and we've gotten in the car for long drives with the windows down to help with breathing. We always do it together. The only time he doesn't help is if he isn't home. He sometimes works night shift. He also takes very good care of me when I'm sick. I'm very lucky.
2007-01-29 18:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always the one up with our daughter and I worked outside the home 8-12 hours a day. I think it had more to do with the fact that I could cope better with her being sick than my ex could. After she had the measles while he was in Sicily I became an expert on being up with a child...(4 days and 3 nights on about 2 hours of sleep!) However whenever our daughter was sick my ex would accomodate us by sleeping in the guestroom (double bed) so that she could sleep with me in our room and we all would get some form of rest throughout the night.
2007-01-29 18:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my girls get sick (and they always get sick together), it's pretty hard for me to sleep well. I am always up and down, checking on their breathing and if they need cuddles I'm there. My husband is a great father and he will give me support if I am up at night with the girls. He works very long hours and so I try to keep our girls quiet so he can sleep, but he's a worry worrier so he stays awake too. If it's something like them throwing up, he stays away because he'll end up throwing up too. But for the most part if the kids are awake sick, he is too. ^.~
2007-01-29 19:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a SAHM to 2 kids, and if they're sick I can't sleep anyway. But my husband needs his sleep (long commute) so I will usually go down to the sick child's room to sleep with them - usually on the floor LOL! If I asked, he would certainly help but he makes up for my overtime in plenty of other ways. Childhood isn't forever, it's no big deal since I'm lucky enough to stay home.
2007-01-29 19:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lyn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI, Look i am a stay home mum, Mu husband and i both get up to my two kids. We share the roll. We both work from home. we both look after the kids. Having kids are not like they used to be. There are now stay home Dad's there are family where only the mum looks after the kids and the dad works and does no house work. Each family is different.
2007-02-02 14:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are not vomiting this is the one time they can sleep in my bed. They sleep better and I sleep better as they are right there to wake me if i'm needed. I am a single mum so they husband part doesn't apply but if i was married and he worked I would let him sleep as I stay home and could catch a little sleep in the day
2007-01-29 19:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋