I'm not claming to be the master of romance or anything like that but how come now a days people are obsessed with dating and being in a relationship? I mean women always fall in love so easily and men are always trying to date the hottest thing out there.... Has love or lust really been the only source of real happiness in life? Is romance really as necessary as air that we have to have all the time and if we don't our lives are miserable or there's something wrong with you that you are un-datable? It seems like every movie, every tv show and every song is about love and relationships or has some love elements to it and there's a bagajillion books out there on how to get a guy or how to get over a break up and even romance novels about love dilemmas....I dunno what i'm even trying to say anymore i just got myself confused....
2007-01-29 18:12:16 · 3 answers · asked by nerd*in*da*making 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fantasy of romance. You have made some interesting observatons. It sounds like you are saying that you have noticed that many seem to be relationship obsessed, or obsessed with falling in love with some idealized person or perfect soul mate.
I think many people are trying to define themselves by having a mate. Rather than getting to know themselves and be who they are, they look for someone else to be what they want and focus on that fantasy. The greatest and longest lasting relationship is the one you have with yourself.
The people in your life are a reflection of you. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will be unhappy with your mate. Most people get it the other way around, thinking if they are happy with their mate they will be happy with themselves. Sorry, Your relationship to yourself comes first and all other relationships are a reflection of the relationship to yourself.
I think you might be onto this and that is why you feel frustrated when you hear people searching for themselves and their happiness in others. The only way to find bliss is to know yourself, then a good relationship comes with meeting another that knows himself and then the two of youshare yourselves with each other.
Thanks for the thoughtful post.
2007-01-29 18:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People want what they don't have, and others want the security of not being alone.
It's always nice to feel loved, even through a moment or two from a song, or for eternity with "the one."
2007-01-30 02:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by cupnoodle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
didn't read ur long verbal judo but i think nobody wants to be alone.....most ppl feel insecure. being with someone is a good thing.
2007-01-30 02:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Funk-Ski Biznez Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋