pls help me im so confused with my bf?

Question

i dont know now if he really honesty love me ,the fact that there are times i caught him online w/web cam and i didnt get answer from him when i send IM.but when i ask him about this he told me it wasnt him,but her daughter use it, but what im trying to say is that i need an answer badly if who ever use that IM messenger online to keep me in peace of mind.i love him so much but when i think like what happened it makes me feel like he have something hidden towards in me.pls help me what should i must do in order not to think feel like im losing him.

Answer 1

Has he given you some reason to not trust him? I know that messenger services can maybe give the "wrong signal" sometimes. I mean... There were a lot of times that I would be sleeping and my Web-cam would turn off for some reason, I would become "available" from "idle," or it would simply log me off for some unknown reason. These events made my fiance very nervous at times...and I can see where it could be misleading. I know that if he was logged on to a messenger service and his daughter was using a different it is totally possible for the same web cam to be shown as "available" on both.

If you have already asked him about the instance and he has given you his answer you shouldn't continue to ask him about it. Most likely it will only make him feel like you don't trust him, are invading his privacy, and ultimately tear you both apart. I am not saying don't pay attention to future occurrences.... but go about it in a different way. If you see the web cam on IM him and if he doesn't answer give him a casual call just to talk about the day (do not mention the web-cam) or if you are close enough drop by and just tell him you had to see him.

Be patient, love like there is no tomorrow, and you will know you did nothing to hurt the relationship. In the end you will find out/know the truth .... How do you want it to end?

Answer 2

Try this... sign on with another screen name, IM him something like, "Hi! 20F here. You?" See if he responds. See if you can get him chatting. Like, ask, "Single?" and see what he says.

He might be innocent. Maybe.