im a single breastfeeding mother of a 2yr. old who's around me 24/7. she has refused the bottle and pacifier since day 1. ive tried keeping her busy so that she not thinking about eating, i'm not quite ready to put her in daycare because she unable to verbalize at a level im comfortable with yet, and i have moved away from all of my family to help me out, and i dont trust anyone with my children to babysit. what am i to do. im ready to get back into the work world and get back into school but my 2 yr. old is holding me back cause she refuses to stop breastfeeding. i've even just took it away cold turkey and that didnt work. she drink regular cows milk from a cup plus juices but on top of that she still wants to have the breast. help me out. i need suggestions on what to do.
2007-01-29 18:07:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You can't give in to her, if you give in to her all the time, she will expect it all the time. That goes for when it is time to sleep, when you go to a store and she wants toys, later when she wants clothes, a phone, ect ect. You have to stop it now. She is too old for a pacifier or a bottle, she should be drinking out of a sippy cup at least. She should also be potty trained by now as well.
2007-01-29 18:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My son just turned 18 months old. We threw all of his bottles in the trash three days ago. He has not missed them at all. He also does not really like milk in his sippy cup for some reason. He will drink a small amount and that is it. At two years old he doesnt need large amounts of milk. They eat better when they are not filled up on bottles. At bed time I give my son a sippy cup with flavored water in it and he is fine. I would say throw the bottles in the trash for real and tell him that he is a big boy now. The take him out and let him pick a new big boy cup out at the store. He will get over the bottle very quickly. I think the parents have a harder time because they dont want to hear all the crying. Just get through it for a few days and it will be all over with. good luck.
2016-03-29 09:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first child i was in exactly the same predicament as you & so continued to breastfeed thinking that she'd eventually stop on her own. She never did tire of the breast & at 3 years & 4 months i said enough is enough - no more. She resisted for about 4-5 days & cried, slept badly, didn't eat & had the worst tantrums but then she forgot all about it & it's never been an issue since (she is nearly 11 now though). You just have to make that final decision & stop as i don't think there are any other ways at that age that are effective. You've really given your child the best possible start to life but now you have to think about your own life & mental wellness. Best of luck.
2007-01-29 20:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it is time to wean her off of the breast then just quit letting her nurse, and she will get used to it after a few nights. When I nursed my oldest child, I weaned her off at 10 months and it was hard for me, I wanted to quit nursing so I could have my body back, but I felt sad because nursing was really special and I guess it made me realize that my baby wasn't a little baby anymore. Sometimes I think it is harder for the parent to let go of some things then it is for the child. She will adjust after a few days and it might even take a week. Just don't give in, because then you'll be back to square one. It will probably be really hard because she might fight it and throw a tantrum to try to get you to cave, but just be strong and you'll get through it. Good luck.
2007-01-29 18:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First she is not holding you back from anything. YOU need to decide what you wan to do. Your saying that she cant verbalise at a level that you are comfortable with to leave her with someone else and YOU dont trust anyone to watch her anyway. But SHE is holding you back because she's breastfeeding.
That doesnt make sense.
Maybe try studying from home and working from home, that way you dont have to leave her with someone you dont trust and you are doing what you want/need.
If you want her off the breast then just stop. Thats what I had to do. I ended up telling my daughter that boobie was broken so she couldnt have it anymore. That was the only thing that worked for her.
But please dont blame your daughter for holding you back, thats really not nice. If you want to do something then do it.
I dont trust people with my kids either so I am a stay at home Mum. I will go back to school after they are both at school.
2007-01-29 19:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well i know you said you "took it away cold turkey but that didn't work."
it didn't work because you gave it back!
you have to MEAN IT when you say that you are switching her. she won't let herself starve. she will eventually eat the bottle or cup you give her..because she is hungry. it's about control w/a child this old, nothing more. you need to put your foot down and ignore her protests..or she will be glued to your side for a LONG LONG time to come.
it's time to break her from it.
as hard as it will be....you just need to stop all together and do NOT give in.
she will eventually eat. she's just stubborn hon as most kids are.
2007-01-29 18:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its more that "YOU" aren't ready. You are making to many excuses. Your child can verbalize, what she wants when she wants, she will get used to it if she has to, and she will learn to tell others what she wants. If she can communicate with you, she can communicate with others. If she can drink from a cup, she can live without breast milk. Just make the jump, if you really want to work, and she will adjust. It won't be easy for the first 1-2 weeks, then all will be fine.
Again you are making excuses you say you are ready, then you repeat I am ready, I am not ready. If you really are ready make the plunge, and let her adjust.
2007-01-29 18:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rupi G 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to your pedictran for one. For two why don't you get a job stayng at home taking care of her and have a job out side of the home part time. That would help with daycare and some things can bring in alot of income. If she can drink a cup and have regular cows milk that she should be fine without the breast.She will be just fine.
2007-01-29 18:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by angels192002 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I just cut my daughter off a couple of days ago, she is just over 12 months. She trying scamming me w/ the I am going to cry all night thing but I didn't give in so she finally did. At two years old she is just doing it out of habbit , you need to just get her down to one or 2 feedings a day and cut her off, it will be rough but as long as you don't give in she will get better in a couple of days.
2007-01-29 18:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by medleyc1 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow you should have done this a year ago, just stop! Let her cry, she'll get over it. Trust me, when she's hungry/thirsty, she'll take a cup
2007-01-30 00:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by njyecats 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋