What can I do to start conversations with my man more i barley talk to him bout anything its hard to just bring up anything what are some things i can talk to him about or just bring up just to talk anything i dont care!!!!
2007-01-29 17:46:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is really making us fight and its ruining us alot what can i do...
2007-01-29 17:47:59 · update #1
Is it difficult to start conversations because you are starting to be uncomfortable in the relationship or there's just nothing to say? There's a huge difference between the two, sometimes it's nice to have some silence AND be comfortable with the silence. Anyway back to your question, there are plenty of things to talk about, like your plans for the day, a movie you two just watched, current events, planning a vacation, what happened in school/work, the people you dealt with today and a lot of other things. Knowing what to say shouldn't be too hard in a relationship you're comfotable in. Good luck!
2007-01-29 17:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you have to think about one thing- Could it be that you guys are spending too much time together? Maybe you guys are around each other too much so you have nothing to talk about and get bored with each other. If this is the case, think about hanging out with friends or being apart at least once a week. Ever heard of distance makes the heart grow fonder? If this is not the case then a good thing to do is experience something you guys both don't know much about. Instead of going to the movies, try something different. There are so many things you can do. What does he like? Is he into sports? Go see a game with him. Get involved with his interests and let him be involved with yours. If you guys have nothing to talk about, make something to talk about by doing creative things together. I remember once me and a past boyfriend were in the same situation. I told him that we should go to the art store, we picked up some items and we painted. Even though neither one of us were great artists, it was fun, different and it opened new communication. But in the end you have to be realistic. If you try many different things and nothing seems to work, it may be that you guys are simply not compatible.
2007-01-29 17:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rock, Paper, Scissors 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is 'making you fight,' then you have more problems than just a lack of conversational topics. There is no reason that a couple can't just sit together quietly. If he is being quieter than usual and won't talk to you, then presumably there is an underlying cause.
My guess is that you are feeling extremely insecure for some reason, and that you're trying to get him to tell you something that will make you feel more at ease. However, if you aren't communicating this properly--that is, if he doesn't know that you are feeling insecure, because you haven't told him about it--then you're probably simply puzzling him and generally driving him nuts.
So here's a good topic of conversation: tell him exactly what's on your mind, and ask him to help you resolve it.
2007-01-29 17:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by 2n2222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you talk about when you first met? You must have said something or else you never would have gotten togeather. As is proven here on a daily basis everyone has an opinion about something. Ask him what he thinks about a show on tv or what he thought about something in the news, how did his day go? Ask him things that let him talk about himself, a subject that he should be an expert on. From a man who has been there please don't think that your man will know whats on your mind without you telling him. There are few things more draining than to be told that you should "know" that this or that needed to be done or said without being told about it. Most men just are not that good. Good luck to you, I'll let you go now cause I know you two have a lot to talk about ,
2007-01-29 17:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by southforty1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conversations between you and an intimate partner should come pretty naturally. If you are stumped maybe try talking about things you know he is into. My opinion is if you have to try that hard to simply hold down a conversation with your man, it may not work out in the long run. Yeah, it should be hard to tell your partner certain things, especially when such things could hurt him or make him angry. But everyday conversation should be as natural as waking up in the morning.
2007-01-29 17:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by mcherry362001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can start talking about your school or classes or homework if you are still in school. Or you can talk about your job.
Ask him about his favourite movies or books and share about yours, too. If you two have common in favourite, then there is the conversation. Go with the flow. Laughing out loud about it if there are some funny scences that you both love. Ask him about some questions like something funny about his childhood life. Then make sure you listen to him when he talks. You can also tell him about some of your childhood, some funny stuffs or experiences that you have before you met him or know him. Turst me, everyone wants to hear some funny things about his/her loved ones. You could also talk about food and music. There are tons of things to talk about if you two really want to talk each others. Good luck!
2007-01-29 17:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by cal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask how his day was, how work is, what exactly he does at work, seem interested look at him when he is talking. Ask his opinion on things on whatever you guys are doing at that moment. Be positive try to see the bright side of things. Some guys are not much of talkers, they just like to relax. Sometimes silence is golden. Just be happy you two are together and not every minute has to be filled with words. Good Luck.
2007-01-29 17:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any common interests or goals? What sport makes him go nuts? Ask if he wants to go play soccer down at the park or go for a swim. Do not over talk sometimes its nice to sit and relax in front of a dvd. Men generally like to talk about goals or targets. Hope this helps.
2007-01-29 17:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Cherry R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find some common ground. You can always start with the weather (just for starters) and slowly peek in further to talk about actual feelings with him. You need to break the lack of communication, so you should start somewhere small, and build up from there.
2007-01-29 17:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♫!♫♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him questions to get to know him better and in return he will do the same and before you know it the two of you will be having hours long conversations.
You can ask his favorite color, food, movie. Just go from there and you will be fine
Good luck
2007-01-29 17:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋