I have broken up with my fiance of 3 years and i joined a machmaker site but just to meet guys as friends not for a relationship do you think its ok to meet people off the net and am i being vulnerable?
2007-01-29 17:40:17 · 17 answers · asked by Nat555 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it could be. To be honest I think that the lack of someone to talk to at the end of the day might have driven you to join this site. But it is not necessarily a bad thing. Just beware that there are several guys that join these sites in search of an easy thing, or at least a safer thing. I'm not saying all people in matchmaking sites are desperate or perverted, of course you can find wonderful friends and very nice people there. But do keep your eyes open.
My heart-felt advice, however, would be to seek comfort in your family and existing friends. People who know you and your situation in a much more profound way than a stranger that is probably looking for something completely different. Many times after ending a significant relationship we all feel lonely and needy of new things, but in the end it is the people who love us and is close to our situation that can help us feel better and string until we are ready to start new things or just be on our own for a while.
I certainly hope you feel better soon and that you find whatever it is you are looking for to make you happy. Be it with whoever you need to find or lean on. I send you my best wishes. It will all work out in the end and things will just move for the better.
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2007-01-29 17:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by OM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people on the internet can be fun, but I only advise this to people who have a strong judge of character! Most people on the internet are not honorable in any way, but then there are the exception of people who are there for the same reason as you! I personally have met a couple guys from the internet, one was wonderful, truly someone I was happy to ever meet, and the others were horrible examples of the human species! Beware the ones who try to pressure you to do anything! It's always the ones who want to talk and get to know you who are the nice ones! And no, you are not being vulnerable, staying secluded and reminiscing about ur breakup would be classified as vulnerable! If ur taking charge and making an effort to meet new people then ur golden!
2007-01-29 17:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by psylockegurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting new peeps is never a sign on vulnerability, nor is it a sin! I find that the more peeps one meets, the more you learn. You grow as person and become more mature by interacting and conversing with different people.
Honestly I don't think there's anything wrong with it!
But it does become a problem when it becomes 'more' that just "meeting guys" and then using your vulnerability as an excuse!
Just be careful and don't let yourself get too close and then lost in all the emotion.
2007-01-29 17:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no doubt that you are vulnerable so tread carefully. I have met 4 girls on Internet and have been good friends with them for a number of years, they live in other countries. I met one recently and we are very close after such a short time, we have fun chatting etc. You can meet people but be very careful and keep the friendship nature of your quest at the forefront of you mind. You will know when you want to take a friendship further.
2007-01-29 17:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.......me and my fiance just recently broke up also. i too have been on the dating sites , i guess i just figured it would make it easier to move on. To be honest it hasn't. The more guys i talk with the more I miss my fiance. The guys I've talked with have no real respect for girls and the conversations become so xrated i feel like i need a shower after just two minutes. I miss being treated like a lady and made to feel special. I was able to be myself and he was a wonderful guy. I feel like i have gone from fine wine to stale , stagnant water and it makes me angry i have to now weed my way through the none-sense just to find the right one. I do feel vulnerable and many guys will try and take advantage of that fact. Be careful and don't settle. Find happiness in yourself and if something doesn't feel right about the guys you meet...by all means listen to your heart. I pray you find the one meant for you and much happiness.
2007-01-29 17:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your breakup, his lost !I am still not to sure about meeting people off of the Internet, because it's very easy for a person to captivate you with words, however they may be a serial killer or just playing with your emotions..I guess I am not too trusting of the whole situation.. You can gradually get back into the dating world, just don't fall in love so quickly. Give it time have fun and live your life for a while.. We are only here once so enjoy every day while you can..
2007-01-29 17:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most all people get a sense of vulnerability after breakups. Stay strong, make wise choices.
2007-01-29 17:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be more leary of people you meet on the net, they can tell you anything you want to hear. But I dont think its a bad way to meet people.
2007-01-29 17:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're taking a big chance, my sister met a guy on the net, turns out he was a woman beater, ne'er killed her six months in hospital to fully recover, think real hard before you leap
2007-01-29 17:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Gumbo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may or may not just be a distraction while you sort out or close the 3 yr relationship. vulnerable...dunno. i suppose that all depends on what youre expecting or want to get out of it. peace
2007-01-29 17:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋