Good guy seeks answers about depression?

Question

I am a 21 year old male (college student) who has been suffering from depression for probably about 7 years now. I used to be extremely outgoing, but know find myself very worried about what others think and I don't know why.This kind of leads me to my problem. The happiest I ever was during the past 7 years was a very strong 3 year relationship with my then Girlfriend. We have since moved on and I find myself looking for that girl who might make me happy. I have found it troublesome because I really have not dated since (8 months ago) and I continue to find trouble in my dating life. Mostly I try to rationalize that others might find me ugly (when I know I am pretty good looking) or their is something about my personality that might be a turnoff. I think this keeps me back from a relationship by causing me not to pursue it. Any tips or suggestions anyone might have would be awesome. Thanks

Answer 1

You've probably heard this, but it really is true.
Don't depend on anyone for your happiness but yourself. You are young, find your passion within yourself!

Answer 2

I think that you should lay off the dating scene for awhile and work on you. There is nothing wrong with you, it's your mindset. You need to change that before you can move on. Depression can kill your spirit and other people notice that. You need to try to work on making yourself happy. Someone can't do that for you, it has to come within. I have Bipolar disorder and I am in a terrible mindset right now. I know that happiness first starts on the inside, that their is no one that can make me happy but me, but I know what you are going through. I look for relationships to make me happy, but in the end, it always gets messed up because of my mindset. You have to make you happy. Honestly, if you are not now, you need to see a therapist. If it's been going on for 7 years, then it is too serious to leave to chance that it will work out. Please go see someone. The first step is you have to be proactive about your health. It sounds like you really need some counseling to help the healing begin. I hope you can move past this. I am in your shoes, honestly, and I hope that you seek help to make you feel better. I really do.

Answer 3

Self depreciating thoughts are part of depression. Have you considered any of the newer low side effects antidepressants for this?

Sometimes just a little boost with the medication and 6-8 sessions of therapy can have you "back on the wild side".

Might be worth checking out.

Answer 4

try paxil, it helped me alot but gave me headaches so i had to stop taking it. It doesnt mean it will give you headaches though, everyone is different. I cant even pursue a job because im so afraid that i will suck at it and everyone will think i suck.

Answer 5

No matter what you problem might be, there is some own is ready to help you. Guess who, the Lord Jesus Christ, call him for help. He is always longing for you. Jesus loves you!