Is this a good way to meet an interesting stranger?

Question

I'm always putting myself down whenever I want to go up to someone and meet them. I always tell myself things like "they have enough friends, leave them alone, they're not talking to you for a reason" and "don't waste their time" and "you'll bore them or make them uncomfortable; don't be a burden"...

...I was wondering if writing them a simple not with a Hi-ish theme and just basically introduce myself, try to be the cute-funny, and just have a "I want to meet you but too shy to go up to you" line in there would work? Or is writing notes and giving them to people an extinct form of communication and, even more, be scary to strangers?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Well, I reckon that would be a really awkward way to begin a friendship. How do you expect someone to respond? By letter also? It's kinda weird. Next time you see one of these potential friend people, just smile and say "Hi, how's your day goin'?" Good friendships aren't instant, they take effort and time to form. Giving compliments is a good ice-breaker too - I don't know if you are male or female, but acknowledge something they are wearing, hairdo, a book they may be reading, just general **** like that. For example, if you are a chic trying to befriend another chic, then something like "wow, great bag, where'd you get it?"

Answer 2

HMM GOOD QUESTION. I for one was one of the biggest introverts on the planet up until about 12 years ago when a job promotion I recieved forced me to deal with people face to face, on the phone, ask for payments, solve customer complaints, hire and train people etc etc. Before that it was comfortable and easy to stay in the corner and watch everyone else. It was safe and non threatening, but it was also a social vacuum. I wanted relationships and friends badly but I made the same excuses that you just offered. If a written note will help get you off the bench and into the game then by all means do it. People are not as scary to talk too as we make them out to be in our minds. Kinda like the first day of school or work etc. Its always worse in our minds than reality. Believe in yourself to the point to know that what you think and feel is just a valuable and valid as anyone else's. Better yet look to enroll in a class or group that involves speaking in front of other people. I guess it ranks right up there with most people as one of the toughest things to do. But I bet once you do it a time or two before a group just talking to a single person that you'd like to meet won't seem like such a big deal. All the best too you, from one ex terribly shy guy to another

Answer 3

Get rid of the negative thinking and just approach the interesting stranger. Think about how you might BRIGHTEN up this person's day by showing them that they are worthwhile---kind of like how YOu might feel if they did the same. They may even be waiting for some great person to show them interest.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I think its a good idea, i haven't ever been passed a note- it would be a welcome change from the lame pick up lines. Trust me there are only so many times you can hear them!

Try the note idea maybe get the bar person to pass it and you could see what they are drinking and buy them a drink as well!

Answer 5

No, i could evaluate that a "single serving" chum, meaning verbal replace is large and all or perhaps email addresses could be exchanged, yet no longer something occurs previous stable bye. it may purely experience strange.

Answer 6

I think you just need to get out of your "safety" zone and try doing it. Whats the worst that can happen?

Answer 7

You need to work on your self confidence. Think Ugly Betty. If she can do it so can you.