Denial=betrayal?

Question

Why would someone say they are somewhere else? Like my b/f will tell his cousin and sister when they call him on his cell phone, that he is at home or "near by" or down the street, etc. rather than telling them he is at my house...
This to me means he is betraying me, and that they must know something I do not know, and he is afraid they might tell the other g/fs that he sees me....or vice-versa...
I asked him why he does that....he never did that before. He had a good explanation, and said pretty much it is not any of their business anyway where he is. And that if they know where he is they may show up at my house looking for him- that basically they do not need to know where he is..
am i making a big deal out of nothing?? It hurts my feelings when he does this, should it? It seems like he is denying me and the fact that I am anything to him at all...don't denial and betrayal go hand in hand?

Answer 1

It sounds like he just doesnt want them showing up unannounced and by saying he's 'down the street' they have a general idea but cant come bother you guys. Now this obviously is bothering you a lot so you should bring it up to him again and make sure he understands that it hurts your feelings and bothers you.
I know that when I'm out sometimes and my friends or whoever call me and ask where I am, I just say "I'm out" and leave it at that cause I dont what them to come down. I just dont want them to be like "oh that sounds like fun I'm coming too".

And thats probably them same with your boyfriend. He's not being sneaky, he prob just wants to hang out with just you and not be bothered.